Do you ever feel like you have to apologize for being you? Have you ever walked away from a conversation or a situation and questioned yourself? Why did I do that? Why did I say that? Why am I like that? or Why didn’t I say this? Ever wish God made you differently? Ever wondered how to actually be you and not have to apologize for it?
What about this: do you ever just wish you were someone else? If so, then grab some coffee and lean in!
How to actually be YOU without apology.
I have a secret dream.
I long for the day when we as Jesus-girls can all be who He has called us to be, collectively. For every one of us to WoMAN UP. We talk about how we want to be the “domain” of our home. SO GET UP AND DOMAIN IT. For the love of Jesus and for the love of your family- GET UP. RISE UP!
Sorry I got off on a tangent there… Seriously, I am passionate about seeing each one of us RISE UP into WHO Jesus has called us to be. And I long for the day when you can be YOU without apology. Be YOU without apology. Click To Tweet
Because you know it can happen, right?
Can you just stop and do something with me for a minute? Will you picture me sitting across from you at Starbucks? I’m drinking a tall iced caramel macchiato, easy on the caramel. I’m probably cold, and I’ll probably be biting my lip. Most definitely I’ll be picking my cuticles, and if you want, you can tell me to stop. All the while I’m looking square in your eyes with an intensity that can only come from the heart.
Ok. So women have this crazy ability to compare themselves with one another. Right? I mean…it’s sooo easy. We gripe and whine about “not” being able to do certain things, but when it comes to comparison?? Oh we got that one down don’t we?? Yes we do.
She’s a much better mom than me.
Her hair is so much longer and prettier than mine.
I wish I had her clothing budget.
I wish my husband was like hers.
I wish I had a body like hers! I’m so fat.
Why do we do that?? I’m guilty of it too. Although I’ve come a long way, I still find myself doing this from time to time, because I’m human. Being human is no excuse though. Fix it ladies, and fix it quick. Here’s what I do. When I catch myself doing this I do my best to quickly turn this comparison trap into admiration.
Admiration > Comparison
She’s such a good mom.
I love her hair style.
She is adorable and always looks so put together!
They are so cute together.
Her fitness routine and healthy eating plan inspires me!
See? Wasn’t that easy? Turn comparison into admiration. #comparison #admiration Click To Tweet
You are more than you think are.
You are beautiful.
You are unique.
You are something special.
And I’m not just giving you flattery.
Actually I’m an expert on this topic thank you very much. An expert is a person with extensive knowledge or ability based on research, experience, or occupation and in a particular area of study. I’ve been a christian for as long as I can remember. I’ve been through trials and celebrations. I’ve studied the bible extensively. See? I’m an expert on it. 🙂 I may not be an expert at much, but I’m an expert at knowing that YOU ARE MORE. It’s what the bible tells me, AND I BELIEVE EVERY WORD.
So- how do you be YOU without apology?
- Always turn comparison into admiration.
- Compliment, compliment and compliment. And make it genuine.
- Think before you speak. Always use truth and love as a compass; let that be your guide.
- Have confidence knowing who you are in Christ.
- Be nice. Be kind.
- Realize that you really are only human. Sometimes you will do things and say things that are wrong and that you will need to apologize for. Be sure and apologize when necessary, that way you CAN be YOU. Get it?
Last, examine your heart. If your heart is ugly, than being you without apology doesn’t really fit. Right? If your heart is ugly than you are not free to be you. Get your heart right. When you allow God to do His work inside of you than there is a freedom that comes a long with it and you are free to be you.With Jesus, I am free to be me. #free Click To Tweet
What holds you back from being able to just be YOU? Do you feel like you fall in the comparison trap frequently? What ways do you overcome? Do you have any other tips to share? Share in the comments below!
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