How to Really Have it All

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I’m so excited to bring you my friend Marva. Marva blogs over at Sun Sparkle Shine, and she truly does sparkle. She is from the Brittish Virgin Islands and she has a lovely, lull-me-to-sleep accent. Her blog is full of wisdom and inspiration, too. So, enjoy!

The myth of having it all.

We try. We do. We try and do some more.

Then we wonder why it isn’t enough.

It’s a hoax, you see. We’ve bought into the lie. And still we can’t understand why it’s not working out for us.

The ‘it’ I’m talking about is the myth of having it all. It seems to be the goal of all aspiring successful women.

We think — no, we believe — with every fiber of our beings that we can have it all.

The killer career, the devoted husband, the well-behaved kids and of course the white picket fence to make everything look pretty on the outside.

And why not? Isn’t that what we’re told we need to be happy?

So we spend a lifetime trying to get there only to realize, ‘hang on a second, this is not where I want to be’. Or worse, ‘this is not WHO I want to be’.

Maybe this isn’t your story. Maybe you do have it all and you’re loving it. And in fact, you’re striving for more. Or perhaps you’re wise to the lie and refuse to get on the ‘have-it-all-by-30’ bandwagon. Or whatever the going number is these days.

But is it possible that you’ve bought into the lie too?

How you really CAN have it all!A wise man once told me something that I’ll never forget. I was celebrating my birthday and he was wishing me well. He recalled the success that I’d had in my career, reaching to the top of my field. He also hinted at how proud he was of the little family my husband and I had started. But then he went on to say something quite unexpected.

“You’re now in the second half of your life”, he said. “You spent the first half building, striving, making a name for yourself. Now it’s time to give back. To slow down. To help others.”

I wish I had recorded him. I wish he were here to say these words to me now.

That was the last birthday I celebrated with my father and it was him who spoke those wise words. Words that have stayed with me and made me ponder many aspects of my life.

He was right, of course.

I really did spend what felt like a lifetime striving. ‘When I get this…then I’ll…’ ‘First let me do this, then we could…’ There was always something more to reach for. Something else that I thought would satisfy me. Not yet learning that God is enough for me.

And this dream of ‘having it all’? Oh, how it plagued me. But over time, life was teaching me some lessons.

I was already on a journey before he said those words but he crystallized what I now know to be true: I can have it all, yes, but not all at the same time.

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I have since come to believe that having it all, comes at a price. We pay when we sacrifice areas such as:

  • relationships
  • health
  • peace of mind
  • spiritual fulfillment

Is having it all really worth the cost?

Perhaps we need to stop and ask ourselves if it’s worth it.

— Is my goal to be the best in my field worth sacrificing the time I get to spend with my kids?

— Should I really put off going to the doctor just because it doesn’t fit into my schedule? (Yes, I’ve been there.)

— Is all the extra that I’m doing worth compromising my devotional time?

Have you been there?

If you’re there right now, I encourage you to pause for a moment. Consider what it is you’re really running after and the price you’ll likely pay to get there. Maybe it will be worth it. Maybe not.

The good news is, we don’t have to pay the price for this terrible lie — this myth that tries to convince us that ‘having it all’ is what we really need. We can choose another path based on godly wisdom.

Proverbs 16 is a good place to start. No matter what goals I might have, it is God who will determine my steps. Turning to him for direction and wisdom is the best thing I can do.

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What about you?

What price have you paid in your pursuit of having it all?

What advice can you give for the woman who’s trying to balance everything in order to have it all?

How can we offer our daughters a better way?

I’d love to hear your thoughts in the comments.

Wishing you blessings!

 

Marva is an island-living, sun-loving Christian wife, mother and wearer of many hats. Inspired by John 10:10 she encourages women to slow down and enjoy life to the full, brilliantly. You can find all the latest sparkle on her blog SunSparkleShine as well as Facebook, Pinterest, Twitter and Instagram. Get a free copy of her e-book You Were Made to Sparkle when you sign up for her Sparklelights newsletter here.

One Simple but Life-Changing Way to Deal with Anxiety

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One, Simple, Life-Changing Way to Deal WIth AnxietyI was busy doing my normal household chores when I got a call from my daughter. When I answered, all I heard was heavy breathing. I suddenly knew something was wrong and as much as I tried to get her to tell me what was wrong, all I heard were heavy breaths and silent sobs.

“Honey, I need you to take slow, deep, breaths.”

I didn’t really know how to help her, but I knew she was having an anxiety attack. I’d have given anything to be with her in that moment so that I could physically help calm her. The only thing connecting us was an invisible phone line and I had to use it to the best of my ability.

I continued to sit there silently, encouraging her to take big, deep, slow breaths. Eventually, after about 5 minutes she was able to calm her self.

Her anxiety was real, and if you suffer from anxiety, then you know that it is real too. I loved this post from Alyssa at Faithleaps. 

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Alyssa explains that anxiety happens when you have negative or worrisome thoughts that you can’t shake. She further says that sometimes it feels like your heart is racing and your insides are shaking.

I have a feeling that there are many people who suffer from anxiety in silence, and although I don’t know how this feels, I DO know that there is someone who DOES know and His name is Jesus.

I loved today’s practical feature from Alyssa because she shows readers how to use a prayer journal to deal with anxiety. She not only shows us how to prayer journal, she gives insightful ways that it helps.

If you or someone you know suffers from anxiety, I encourage you to read and share this article. Prayer journaling could be your breakthrough!

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Now, onto today’s link up. Please make sure to read today’s feature before moving on, and Alyssa, make sure you grab the “I’m featured” button below!

How to Show Grace to Others

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Hi there friends! We’re sliding into the middle of July, and summer is almost over. We have two more weeks of “Summer Sizzle,” and then I’ll be back to posting regularly. It’s been a whirlwind of a summer but I’m grateful! I love today’s post from my friend Dawn, at Above the Waves, because it’s about one of my favorite subjects; grace. I think we can all use a lesson in grace every so often. Actually, more than every do often, we need these lessons daily!

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Showing grace to others is about showing kindness even when they don’t deserve it.  God has shown such grace to us.  We, in turn, are asked to show grace to each other. Here are nine ways to extend grace to others:

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Words

Be kind and gentle in what you say and how you say it.

“A soft answer turns away wrath, but a harsh word stirs up anger.” Proverbs 15:1 (ESV)

Look for Needs and Opportunities

simple everyday kindnesses and actions often help in great ways. Here are a few ideas to start with…

Simple Acts of Kindness:

How to Show Grace to Others

 

“Love one another with brotherly affection. Outdo one another in showing honor.” Romans 12:10 (ESV)

Let it Go

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Respond to others with grace.

Sometimes people are going to be rude.  Instead of responding harshly, keep a calm spirit.

“It is an honor for a man to keep aloof from strife, but every fool will be quarreling.”  Proverbs 20:3 (ESV)

Be There

Sometimes your presence is all that’s needed to show someone they’re loved. Be happy with the person who’s happy.  Be sad with the person who’s sad.

“Rejoice with those who rejoice, weep with those who weep.” Romans 12:15 (ESV)

Forgive

When someone asks you to forgive, do so graciously and without correction.

“For if you forgive others their trespasses, your heavenly Father will also forgive you, but if you do not forgive others their trespasses, neither will your Father forgive your trespasses.” Matthew 6:14-15

Learn to Ask for Forgiveness

Be quick to apologize when you make a mistake or have wronged someone else.

“So if you are offering your gift at the altar and there remember that your brother has something against you, 24 leave your gift there before the altar and go. First, be reconciled to your brother, and then come and offer your gift.” Matthew 5:23-24 (ESV)

Watch the Way You Speak

Be careful how you express yourself.

“Let no corrupting talk come out of your mouths, but only such as is good for building up, as fits the occasion, that it may give grace to those who hear.” Ephesians 4:29 (ESV)

Gratitude

Say thank you often and let people know how much you appreciate them.

“Give thanks in all circumstances; for this is the will of God in Christ Jesus for you.” 1 Thessalonians 5:18 (ESV)

Take an Interest in Others

Learn about other people, ask them questions, listen and care.

“Do nothing from selfish ambition or conceit, but in humility count others more significant than yourselves.” Philippians 2:3 (ESV)

Who can you be gracious towards today?

Dawn is a freelance writer and Christian blogger who loves encouraging women to keep their focus on Jesus.  She’s the author of Look to Jesus:  How to Let Go of Worry and Trust God.  She’s a wife and mom to two teens.  A Seattle girl, she loves books and coffee. You can find her at Above the Waves

 

 

5 Truths for Your Broken Heart

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5 Truths for Your Broken HeartEveryone suffers from a broken heart at some point in their lives and taking the easy way out and denying it sometimes seems to be the best option in dealing with it. But the thing is, it’s not the easy way out. When we face the pain and heartbreak, healing begins. And the most amazing part of facing it is that we aren’t alone. Jesus is with us, even when we can’t feel His presence.

Today’s feature is Cassidy, from Cassidy’s heart.  She gives us 5 Truths for our broken hearts and scriptures for our deepest hurts. Please read her post moving on to this week’s link up!

 

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How I Encourage My Husband | Guest Post

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How to Write Your Husband a TRUE love letter

I thank God every day for my husband because I earnestly prayed for a man just like him. Everything I do, I strive to give thanks to God for all that is within my marriage (during the good and the bad).

As I think about him, I can’t help but think about writing love letters. A lengthy letter thanking him for how he has loved me, blessed me, and taken care of me would be easy to write. 

So, instead of that hopeless romantic letter, I like to write a different kind of letter; a letter to him that is about him. One that encourages him and tells him who he is in God.

As I allow my hands to be led by the Holy Spirit, I hope to give truth, the Word of God, and prayers for his righteousness and grace. I hope to write how God sees him because how God sees him is how I should strive to see him each and every day.

How to write your husband a TRUE love letterI want it to build him up enough to recognize his gifts in ministry.

When my hand writes; “you are a man of integrity”, I pray my husband’s head is lifted up with humbleness.

When he reads “I love when you raise your hands to the Lord,” I hope he feels a victorious strength within him.

God gives us the insight that we need for our marriage today. He has given us loved ones to pray and encourage us and to speak life into our marriage. God has repeatedly shown Himself to us and builds us up in our love for one another.

Knowing all the investment that has been put in us for a Christ-like marriage, it is our responsibility to continue speaking life by reminding each other who we are in Christ and what love truly is in a Christian-based marriage.

Just as Paul wrote to the Corinthians; what they say in a letter when they are absent, they must do when they are present.

Let such a person consider this, that what we are in word by letters when absent, such persons we are also in deed when present. 2 Corinthians 10:11

A true love letter must have the main component; true love. And we wouldn’t even know what true love is without God.

With God, we have peace, communication, and we have the determination to do God’s will, which is a powerful tool for a marriage.

Give Thanks to the Lord for He is good and His love endures forever! 1 Chronicles 16:34

Write your husband a true love letter.

Write your husband a love letter of how you think God sees him. Remind him of words that have been spoken over your marriage that once encouraged you both. Write an encouraging prayer to your him about a specific area in his life. Write about a specific trait/action that you love about him as he serves the Lord.

This is an example of one of the letters I wrote my husband one time:

“I love that when we walk into church, the first thing you do is grab two tissues and stick them in your pocket. I love that you prepare yourself just in case you might cry during service. I admire this strength in you that shows how much you look forward to seeking God.”

Do you write love letters to your spouse? I would love to hear about them!

Carmen Brown is the creator of Married by His Grace blog. She actively writes to women who desire to build their home with the word of God. Her passions involve staying connected with her family, drinking an immense amount of coffee daily, and developing content that will help and encourage new Christian Bloggers. You can connect with Carmen on her blog, Instagram, and Pinterest.

Overcommitted: 3 Things to Consider Before Saying Yes

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Overcommited: 3 Things to Consider Before Saying Yes As a young mom, I wanted everything to be perfect. Reflecting back to a time when Alex was 3 and Averee was 1, I was super insecure about myself as a wife and mother.

I wanted my girls to eat 3 square meals a day. Of course, wouldn’t you know it, that God would gift me with the most stubborn daughter who refused to eat my healthy options.

I wanted my home to be perfect. This meant dishes out of the dishwasher, floors spotless and dust wiped.

I wanted the perfect marriage. I wanted us to agree on everything, have great sex and make the best memories.

It seemed my identity was wrapped in everything being perfect. It was also wrapped in doing everything for everyone that asked. I was insecure in who I was as a person and trying to do it all so that I could establish myself as a worthy person. When someone asked me to do something or volunteer in an area at church, or help in some way I would say yes because I hated letting others down and I wanted them to think that I was good.

Eventually, all of my striving for perfection and yes’s came crashing down on top of me. It caused unhappiness, anxiety and left me with feeling worthless. Thankfully I had a wise husband who, over time,  helped me see that it was okay to say no. I also had Jesus who is the author and finisher of my faith. Because of my faith in Him, I was able to just be me. I still had a hard time saying no to others, and I had a lot to learn, but at least it was a starting point.

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It’s why I love this wise article from my feature today, Samantha from Sweeter Still. Samantha wisely shares with us 3 things to consider before making another commitment and I love her advice. Before moving on to this weeks link-up please visit her blog!

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Fighting in Marriage: It’s Okay. | Link-up #6

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How Fighting in Marriage is Okay.The devil HATES your marriage. If he can slip in even through a tiny crack, he will. His desire is to come in, make residence, and wreak havoc. And then the ultimate goal is to destroy you, destroy your family and destroy generations. Sounds depressing and somber, doesn’t it?

Yep.

Because it is.

We can’t allow him to do this! We have to FIGHT in marriage, and I’m not talking about fighting each other.

We have to fight the enemy. 

I can’t go further without mentioning a fighter, Lysa TerKeurst. Last week, Lysa wrote a blog post and beautifully and vulnerably shared her heartbreaking circumstances about her own marriage. If you missed it, you can read it here. When I heard this news tears flowed from my eyes.  Lysa IS a fighter. She is a warrior. Her circumstances may not have ended as she had hoped, but it doesn’t mean she isn’t a fighter. I have so many thoughts about this because, in a sense, I can relate to her husband, Art. My story is different though because I woke up. My heart breaks for him because he just doesn’t know what he is doing. Satan has blinded him, leading him into a beauty that is toxic. Satan is beautiful, always remember that.

I’ve kept a bit quiet about my thoughts and feelings about Lysa’s circumstances because it hits so close to home for me. My heart literally breaks for her and her precious family. I’m journaling to myself and to my Lord about it though and soon I will share them with you, as it cuts deep. Every time I think of Lysa and her family it is a deep reminder of what my life could be like right now had I not “woken up.” Although I am so grateful, the feelings I have are indescribable, which is why I’m journaling.

I love today’s feature from Kaitlin from Barefoot Blog.  She shares with us how we can stop giving the enemy a foothold in our marriages and how to fight!

Here’s a prayer from Kaitlin for our marriages:

“My prayer for us is that we would not grow so distracted with our jobs, responsibilities, kids, activities, and even ministries that we lose sight of the Gift right beside us. May we be on the alert for any wedges that are trying to drive themselves in between us and our spouse.”

Please check out her article before linking up or reading today’s posts! Now, on to the link-up!

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When You Don’t Want to Submit in Marriage.

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Welcome to week#3 of our summer sizzle series! I love this beautiful woman that wrote today’s article. Alison is wise beyond her years. I had the pleasure of meeting her several months ago because she used to live not far from me. Alison is young, but you’d never know it by talking to her. She truly is an inspiration and a gift to me. Whether you’ve been married for 1 year or 20 years, you’ll learn from what she has to say. Sit back, grab that cup of coffee and lean in to her words today!

Submitting in Marriage: When You Stink at it!

You know those days when you learn a huge life lesson and then remember it forever?

This was one of those days.

There is a steady desire within me to submit to my husband. But on this particular day, I peeked over my man’s shoulder and thought, just let me take over, babe.

Our cell phone contract was coming to an end, and my husband wanted to switch to Verizon. Which is no big deal in the slightest except that all cell phone carriers are shockingly expensive.

In my mind, a phone is a phone. You can call and you can text. You can check social media, email and other seemingly important things that, in reality, are not all that important.

So, as my husband was kindly doing all of the heavy lifting by changing our cell phone carrier, these thoughts about cell phones were running through my mind.  He filled the online cart with the required updates and data plan.

Most cart additions he made, I questioned. And if I didn’t outright question it, something was burning fiercely hot in my chest making me want to question it.

Unfortunately, this is my nature.

As my husband took care of our cell phone plan, I kept cringing – both outwardly and in my heart.

Submitting at Marriage: When You Stink at it!

I wanted to submit in my marriage.

I wanted to submit to his decision-making and his leadership. I wanted to be excited that he was dealing with the cell phone people and I didn’t have to do any research. But in my heart, I knew – in that moment and today – that I stink at submitting to my husband.

You see, my husband is my equal – created by God to lead our family and be head over our household. This does not mean that he makes decisions without talking to me, purchases expensive cell phones without a conversation first, or anything of the sort.

But it does mean that, as his wife, I must stand beside him, support him, and serve as his helper – a role that is of equal importance and value to our family.

Eve wasn’t all that submissive either. She wanted to take control, and she did. It didn’t turn out well. The story is right at the beginning of the Scriptures, which is an eye-opening reminder to me that this issue is common, and that trouble submitting as a wife will exist until the day Christ comes back to redeem the earth.

You know Eve’s story. The cunning serpent lied and convinced her to eat the fruit of the one tree in the garden that God told her not to eat. Then, she gave some to Adam. Sin made them brutally aware of their fallenness, so they covered themselves and tried to hide from God. Thus, the first sin took place and humanity – and marriage – has been fallen ever since.

Submitting in marriage was always God’s design.

God designed marriage to be full of honor, friendship, love, and grace. He designed marriage to imitate the gospel, to speak truth to the masses, and to showcase His relationship with the church.

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And, to be harsh but honest, we ruin that all of the time. We choose selfishness and personal gain. In pride, we wish for our opinions to be heard. We want to make decisions and plan our days and live our own way.

Next, comes the part of the story where Eve is told she will stink at submission.

Genesis 3:16: “To the woman He said: ‘I will greatly multiply your sorrow and your conception; in pain you will bring forth children; your desire shall be for your husband, and he shall rule over you.” (NKJV)

Desire in this verse points to idolatry. We idolize our husbands over the Lord, or we desire the position and headship of our husbands, or we do both.

Sin came in like a crushing wave and destroyed much of our ability to submit to our husbands well. We still live in sin, meaning we are far from getting this submission thing right.

But we should try anyway.

With our marriages, we should aim to love in gospel-centered ways and to show the world the best possible example of Christ.

So, how do we submit in marriage?

How do we do this?

We worship the Lord when we wish to idolize our husband’s authority.

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This is the root of the issue – our worship. What are we worshipping?

I pray that I’m not worshipping my opinion or the ability to disagree. I also pray that I’m not running after control or choosing distrust in my marriage.

May we run to the cross – leaving idolized authority in the background and jumping into the arms of a worthy Father. He is able to work in us and make us new.

As my husband clicked ‘confirm’ on the new cell-phone plan, I praised. I thanked God for a husband who was willing to research the best carrier, for the ability to pay for a cell-phone plan, and for the countless ways God has blessed us recently.

My issue was never with the cell phone plan. Rather, it was with my own idolatry – I was worshipping my desire for control. I was choosing to question my husband rather than support him as a helper.

So, I stopped and praised. I didn’t do it perfectly. In fact, I barely did it well.

But I fumbled through my brokenness and praised anyway. Try with me?

Alison is a wife, blogger, and Jesus-follower growing in grace and truth daily. She loves coffee in the morning, experimenting in the kitchen, camping with her husband, and reading in a hammock just about anywhere. Her blog – AlisonTiemeyer.com – exists to encourage faithful growth and passionate living. You can find Alison on Facebook, Pinterest, Instagram and Twitter.

Thank you for reading Alison’s wise words! What are your thoughts? Is it hard for you to submit in marriage? Share in the comments below.

How to Live with an Authentic Faith | S & L Linkup #5

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Living with an authentic faith in today’s world is different than it was 20 years ago. I was 25 then and Christianity was a predominant faith, at least it was in my eyes. Maybe I was just naive, but the fact remains that being a Christian today is a welcome contrast to what it was back then. Today, it is even more important for me to live authentically for Jesus Christ. To me, this doesn’t mean I wear a sign across my chest that says “I am a Christian.” It simply means that I display the fruits of the spirit in everything I do. They will know you by your fruits, not in what you say.

What is Authentic Faith? How to Live with an Authentic Faith, Link Up, Faith and InspirationAuthentic faith is a big deal, and that’s why I loved today’s feature from last week’s link-up.

Today’s featured writer from last week’s Salt and Light Link-Up is Dani from Living Free Indeed.

Dani offers such wisdom and also gives us 5 steps to living with authentic faith. Click on over to her blog to read more!

I love how she bullet points each step of living authentically. If you’re a new believer,  she makes it easy to follow, and if you’re a seasoned believer it will add a spark in your step, I assure you! Please take a moment to check out Dani’s post before moving on to the link-up!

What Do We Do When Our Daughters Hurt?

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This is week #2 of the Summer Sizzle Series. As I was reading this article by my dear friend Melanie, tears streamed down my face, because I’ve been there. And if you have girls, I know you can relate.  When my daughters hurt, it’s like a knife in my heart. If I could take all of their pain away I certainly would. Grab your kleenex friends, and get ready to learn some valuable truths that will help you when your daughters hurt!

When our daughters hurt

The tears were free-flowing streaming down her cheeks. Her heart had been broken by the cruelty of a thoughtless person. She was hurting.

I was hurting.

The situation was painful. She’s my daughter – my only girl, and someone had broken her heart. In those quiet moments where we just sat and cried, I began to think about what I should say to her. 

How should I advise her?

What could I do or say to make it less painful?

What did she need to hear most in that moment?

Over the next few minutes, some really sweet words of encouragement came to me as I prayed silently.

I think the Lord gave me these words. I shared them with her, and I will do so again.

(In fact, I texted these very words to her this morning!)

It’s likely you have a daughter who also needs to be encouraged today. Even if they are not going through a heartache or a challenging season, these words still apply.

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These are the 5 Things Every Girl Needs to Hear:

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1.) You are LOVED!

Most of our girls will face times of self-doubt and insecurity.

They will go through stages when the feel clumsy and ugly and unlovable. They will have moments when they don’t even like themselves. 

They need to regularly hear these words from us:

“No matter where you go, what you do, what you don’t do, or what life throws your way, we love you and God loves you.”

“There is NOTHING you can do to change our love for you!

There is also NOTHING you can do to change God’s love for you!

Nothing can separate you from our love or from His love.”

And I am convinced that nothing can ever separate us from God’s love.

Neither death nor life, neither angels nor demons, neither our fears for today nor our worries about tomorrow—not even the powers of hell can separate us from God’s love.

No power in the sky above or in the earth below—indeed, nothing in all creation will ever be able to separate us from the love of God that is revealed in Christ Jesus our Lord.” (Romans 8:38-39)

2.) You are LOVELY!

Our girls are torn down, compared, contrasted, nit-picked, and made to feel less than beautiful all the time.

Many of them struggle with doubts about their beauty, body shape, and personality.

They look at images on Social Media and feel inadequate. They look at actresses in magazines and on TV and feel inferior and less than those that they see.

They spend time with their friends and don’t feel as thin or as pretty as their friends.

They need to hear these words from us:

“On the inside and on the outside, you are truly a beautiful person!”

“God has crafted you with such creativity, compassion, and wisdom. 

He has also blessed you with a gorgeous smile and incredible blue eyes.

You are beautiful – just the way you are.”

3.) You are the LORD’S!

There will be moments when our girls will wonder how they are unique and special.

They will ask things like: What is their purpose? Does God have great plans ahead for them?

They need to hear these words from us:

“God specially created you as a one of a kind.”

“You are a designer’s original – the only you on this planet.”

“Thank you for making me so wonderfully complex!
    Your workmanship is marvelous—how well I know it.” (Psalm:139:14, NLT)

“You have a wonderful LIFE ahead of you!”

“God has amazing plans for your life. You are His!”

“There will be setbacks, roadblocks, and detours, but you will make it through all of these things.” 

4.) You will always be LEARNING valuable lessons – especially in the hard moments of life!

No matter how much we try to protect and shield them from it, life is going to be hard for our girls. In fact, our children may live through very challenging days.

There are no guarantees that our girls will grow up to be healthy, wealthy, and wise.

We need to speak the truth to them and let them know that life may be very hard. We also need to tell them that they can grow and learn great lessons from these hard times.

They need to hear these words from us:

“Some days will be challenging, but every single challenge brings you the chance to learn valuable lessons.”

“No discipline is enjoyable while it is happening—it’s painful!

But afterward, there will be a peaceful harvest of right living for those who are trained in this way.” (Hebrews 12:11, NLT)

“Try to enjoy the journey and don’t hurry toward the destination.”

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5.) Life is an adventure -meant to be savored, enjoyed, and experienced.

Try to also encourage your girls to dream, live, and explore. Life is full of great moments that they can embrace.

Our girls need to be reminded that life is a great adventure–full of opportunity.

They need to hear these words from us:

“Remember – God promises to be with you every step of the way.”

 “For He, Himself has said, “I will never leave you nor forsake you.” (Hebrews 13:5, NKJV)

“There are going to be so many great adventures ahead for you.”

“Try to enjoy them, savor them, embrace them, and live in them.”

“Live your life to the fullest, enjoying these adventures He has for you.”

Our girls need to hear:

You are loved, lovely, and the Lord’s.  You have a wonderful life ahead of you with lessons to be learned all along the way.

Maybe today, you need to share these words with one or all of your girls?

(Even if she is little bitty, she’s not too young to start hearing these truths)!

~ Maybe you need to text your teen girl or college girl and share these words with her?

~ Possibly you even need to call your grown “girl” and tell her these things today?

And, if you are a girl who NEVER got to hear these kinds of words spoken to you, may I bless you in this way: (or even if you did, you can listen in too)

Hear your Heavenly Father speak these words over you today:

  1. You are dearly and unconditionally loved by Me!
  2. You are lovely–absolutely beautiful–to Me!
  3. You belong to Me! You are Mine!
  4. You will ALWAYS be learning, stretching, and growing!
  5. Your life is an adventure! Hang on for the ride.

 

Melanie is a Christian blogger, Motivational Speaker, Author, and Marketing and Social Media Consultant. She’s married to Randy and mom to two awesome college students. God’s grace never ceases to amaze her.

 

You can find out more about Melanie & her ministry at www.melanieredd.com.

 

Do you have daughters? Is there anything you would add? I would love to hear from you in the comments below!

Also, would you do me a favor —if you resonate with this article or it has helped you today— would you share it with someone else? Maybe a friend, coworker, or family member…?

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