I was voluntarily trapped inside the shame box, hiding and hoping that no one would find me. Self-worth was something completely void in my life. I wasn’t good. I was unworthy; unlovable. Being inside the shame box felt safe but when the lid was opened, my sins were exposed; out in the open for the world to see.
I walked towards the restaurant, every step feeling like I was wading through quick sand. My husband opened the door for me as he always does, but I motioned for him to go ahead of me. Wanting to hide, I walked behind him through the foyer into the crowded and busy restaurant. Immediately I felt heads turning in judgement. I heard voices saying, “She’s the one!”, “Get her out of here!” “I don’t want her near me!” I hung my head in shame wondering why in the world I had agreed to go out to eat. Every deserved dart came at me, threatening to cripple me.
Every where I went I felt the same struggles; walking through Target, strolling the mall, shopping for groceries. Every one there was throwing insults my way; telling me that I was no good; questioning the kind of mother I was; wondering how my husband was still married to me.
Although the shame box was safe, I needed out.
Every day I had to physically force myself to be some kind of normal. I had to physically drag myself out of bed and help my daughters get ready for school. I didn’t have a choice.
Every day I had to fight.
I tried opening my bible but it felt like I was reading a book that was written in a foreign language. At the time, I didn’t have the strength to re-learn it and I didn’t feel I was worthy, anyway.
That was a long time ago, and I’m happy to say things have changed dramatically for me. Although there are times when shame tries to creep back in, I am happy and whole. I know my worth. I know my value. And I know I am loved.
To the girl struggling to see her self-worth:
I get you girl, and you aren’t alone.
Because of past mistakes or past hurts, you can’t seem to get one foot in front of the other; and when you do, you’re dragging.
Oh how I get you.
I know how it feels to stand in front of the mirror, not being able to put your foundation on because of the tears running down your face.
Self-worth: The Fight.
Please listen to me: There is something out there that wants to literally destroy you and me. He slivers around inside our heads and shouts profanities at us. He hates us and everything about us. He is fighting to bring us down. And it isn’t a petty little playground fight. This is legit. This is the fight of all fights.The fight for your selfworth isnt a petty little playground fight-it's legit, & can destroy… Click To Tweet
Can I be a little (alot) bit bold with you?
How dare we allow this to happen?! Right? How dare we allow something like this to grab hold of us and tell us who we are and who we are not.
I mean, we are daughters of the most high King for goodness sakes!? Put those gloves on girl, and fight!
We have a heavenly Father who is so in love with us that He gave His Son as a sacrifice so that you and I would never have to feel this way!
God made YOU. He FORMED you while you were in your momma’s belly. You were made in HIS image. So, just knowing this alone means that our worth is not in ourselves but in God, because He made us!
“You made all the delicate, inner parts of my body and knit me together in my mother’s womb.” Psalm 139:14
And here lies the issue: knowing it and believing it are two very different things. So, how do we BELIEVE? How do we believe and know that we have worth; that we are worthy?
It’s an every day fight. We have to fight to know and believe it because the devil is going to do everything he can to bring us down. So let’s punch him in the face! Wanna?
He (Satan) is fighting and we MUST FIGHT BACK. Ephesians 6:10-18
Self-worth: The Lies vs The Truth.
I’m sure you’re a great momma and wife, but that isn’t where your worth is found.
Whether you get 123 likes or 4 likes on your latest Facebook picture that isn’t where your worth is found.
Whether you’re a teacher, musician or politician, that’s not where your worth is found.
Your worth is found in Jesus Christ and Jesus Christ alone. Period.
Self-worth: Gold and Silver.
You’re valuable! So valuable that you were worth God sacrificing His only Son. And he may be the only person that will ever really and truly love you unconditionally. Let this truth-bomb soak in; because when it does, it will be the only opinion that really matters.God is the only person that will ever really love you unconditionally. #selfworth #fiercelyHis Click To Tweet
You are loved, girl! You are valuable! You are worthy! Now, lift that head up. As I always say to my girls: chin up, buttercup.
Several weeks ago I offered you a #SheIsFierce Fighter Journal for when you need to fight for your marriage, and this week I’m offering another one!
#SheIsFierce Fighter Journal/Fighting to Know Your Self-worth
In this journal you will find 6 steps to knowing your self-worth with 6 truths and 6 actions steps. And an added bonus with 24 verses for when you need a self-worth boost!
And how can you get this journal??
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