When change is hard.

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I think we can all agree that sometimes change is hard. I’m all about change. I like easy going. Shaking things up a bit. Doing things differently. I could annoyingly go on but you get it.

We made the transition of moving from Oklahoma to Colorado exactly 14 days ago.

It’s been a hectic month. We moved our oldest little into her first year of college at a private christian university in our hometown of Tulsa. 4 days later- me, my husband and youngest little said goodbye to that precious face and tons of other precious faces and left to settle in Colorado.

We will all go through change at some point in our lives. Here are 4 truths to remember when change is hard.

Although the emotions have been real, seeing life from this vantage point has been a breath of fresh air (literally) and awesome. Using the word “awesome” seems so cliche…but seriously…it’s awesome.  There is no way you can drive down the highway every day, see the Rocky Mountains and not know that there is a God.

I’m used to running in to change with open arms. But let’s be honest. Sometimes change is hard. And let’s be honest again. Sometimes it’s brutal.

Ever have those awkward moments where you second guess and question if you did the right thing? Even after you’ve received confirmation after confirmation? Ever ask yourself, God did I hear you right?

Yeah?

But I’m not talking about you because really, this post is about me. Because I’ve certainly been questioning a lot lately.

We’ve all second guessed ourselves I guess. Second guessed God. We just need to recognize it and then make the decision to trust Him. It develops our faith and it helps us grow.

I love the song “Inside Out” by Hillsong. “From the inside out Lord my soul cries out..” When we give our hearts to Jesus there is an internal change that happens and it makes it way from the inside out.

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Going through transition, though, changes us from the outside in. Whether that transition is moving, death, sickness, or loss of something, etc. There’s that an external blow and then it makes its way inside our hearts and can either be positive or negative.

External transition will alter you internally.

It’s important that during change we stay focused and remember what is true in order to have a positive change on the inside.

We will all go through change at some point in our lives. Here are 4 truths to remember when change is hard.

Truths to remember when change is hard.

The promises of God.

I believe in rainbows. The world has mystified them and made them about unicorns and pots of gold, but in my world they have everything to do with a loving God who keeps His promises!

God used a rainbow as a reminder of His covenant with Noah and I believe it still holds true today.

Whenever the rainbow appears in the clouds, I will see it and remember the everlasting covenant between God and all living creatures of every kind on the earth. Genesis 9:16

The meaning of that rainbow was everything to Noah. It was his hope and promise for his future and the future of his family!

It’s not uncommon for Denver to get a 15 minute late afternoon rain. Afterwards, rainbows often appear. There have been two instances after the appearance of a rainbow in which I felt God speaking directly to me about moving to Colorado. It’s been very surreal and,  well…just downright cool. The first time was when we drove into Denver and the second time was when we found “the house.” (You know…”the house” that you find when you’ve been looking for a while and you finally find the one.) Which, by the way, we closed on that “house” yesterday. Yay! Anyway, those rainbows reminded me about the hope and future that God has promised my family. It was as if God was saying…all of this is ME. You are in my will!

God is so cool.

During this time of transition I must remember the promises of God. I must fight to remember them. 

  • He has promised us a hope and a future! Jeremiah 29:11
  • He is good and wants good things for us! Genesis 12:2
  • He has prepared the way. Ephesians 2:10
  • He goes before us! Deuteronomy 31:8

Things usually don’t go as planned- be flexible.

Oh my sweet husband. Let me tell you about him. He is the planner in the family. He keeps us all organized. He has cute preferences and he likes things to go a certain way.

And then there’s me. Fly by the seat of your pants and hope everything works out me.
Bless his heart.

He’s responsible for a mutli-billion dollar sales budget but I bet he’d tell you that being responsible for me and his two girls and helping us navigate our lives are the most challenging effort yet.

Poor guy.

With all of that said, since we’ve gotten settled here, things haven’t gone as planned. We’ve had to regroup. We’ve had to step back and say, ok,..what now?

And ya know what?

That’s okay.

Because things aren’t always going to go as planned and we have to be flexible.

When we’re flexible it allows God to move, because sometimes our ways are not His ways. It’s important that when things don’t go as planned to step back and regroup immediately, and then go on and go forth.

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God will send encouragement your way.

My husband had been quiet for most of the evening earlier this week.  The lines I call worry had positioned themselves right where they like to be in the middle of his forehead.

“Are you okay?” Yeah.. I’m fine. (I knew he wasn’t fine.)

Just hours before our youngest little told us that she’d like to visit a different school. It wasn’t the fact that she wanted the change, it was the reality of why she wanted the change. To protect her sweet privacy I don’t want to go into details, but she was just having a rough time at the school that we enrolled her in, and that’s what broke our hearts.

The next morning I was sitting on the sofa forcing back the tears. The phone rang and it was an odd number. I don’t know why I answered.  I normally wouldn’t have answered…especially if it was a number I recognized, simply because I knew that I would cry and I didn’t want to deal with it.

You get it.

But, it was a number I didn’t recognize. So I answered.

I recognized the voice immediately.

“Whatchya doin?”

Just the sound of my sisters voice made the floodgates open.

With my voice shaking, I told her to hang on and give me a minute.

I put the phone down and just literally sobbed. After about 2 minutes, after I was as composed enough to talk I put the phone back to my ear and my sister began speaking life into me. I don’t know if she realizes how that random phone call impacted me.

I love you so much, sis.

I needed to hear what she had to say and I fully believe that if her name would’ve popped up on my phone, I wouldn’t have answered…not because I didn’t want to talk to my sister, but because I was very emotional and didn’t want to breakdown on the phone with her.

God is so cool.

He sends specific people to encourage us during times of discouragement. Some amazing friends have on-purpose spoken life into me during this time and I’m so grateful. God loves us!

Cling to your spouse during change.

I didn’t know it, but John heard me crying when I was talking to my sister. I knew he was working downstairs in his office, but I didn’t realize he could hear me. After I got off the phone he came upstairs and asked me if I was okay and reached out his arms for me.

It’s so important to cling to your spouse during transitions! Satan loves to try and put a wedge in there when we’re vulnerable, but we have to recognize it and armor up.

We have to remember that we’re on the same team! A marriage is a TEAM!

So how about you? Are you going through change? If not, you’ve been there or you will soon be there. Everyone will go through some sort of change at some point in life.  Let these truths sooth your heart and know that God will not leave you! He’s got you girl!

What other things should we remember? I’d love to hear your thoughts below!

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  1. Julie says:

    Shannon- we were there 3 years ago. A cross-state move to live in a new area, but my husband still works in the place we moved to (lots of commuting happens) .
    God said move and we picked up and followed.
    It was a scary and flexibility was key. I found out I was unexpectedly pregnant right before the move too. Yikes!
    I believe God does His best work when we are out of our comfort zones. The only reliable thing we can cling to is Him.
    So excited to see what He does for you during this time!
    Julie

  2. Rachel Q says:

    Thank you so much for your encouragement today! I’m a bit like your hubby and my hubby is like you. I love to know all the details and how it’s going to all work out. My hubby just rolls with it… whatever comes, he handles it. Amazingly flexible and I’m trying to learn that as well. Change is good. Flexibility and the ability to roll with those changes is a growth process. Praying for you friend as you continue this journey! Glad to have met you today at Suzie’s place! Have a great day!

    • Shannon says:

      LOL Rachel…it’s so funny because most of my friends are like you. It’s funny because I’m the exact opposite. If soemthing happened to my husband I don’t know what I’d do, I’d be bling! I probably rely on him too much. But I’m getting sidetracked… so yes..change is good and definitely a growth process! Thanks for stopping by today! xoxo

  3. Cindy says:

    You’ve packed a powerful punch in your post! I am right there with you only I am NOT a fan of change so there’s pretty much a knot in my stomach all the time. We are moving out of our old family home of 18 years in preparation of tearing it down and putting a new house here. Needless to say the memories and packing have been overwhelming. Your words speak straight to my soul. “God IS cool!” And he used you to help me today! Thanks for sharing your wisdom, Shannon! Your “livefree neighbor, Cindy

    • Shannon says:

      Oh gosh Cindy I can’t imagine! I’m praying for you as that’s gotta be hard.. but I imagine the outcome will be amazing! God’s got huge things for you! Thank you for stopping by today!

  4. Patti says:

    We have made 3 cross-country moves—from Florida to Idaho, Idaho to Georgia, then back to Idaho again. While each of those moves was difficult, my most difficult transition was to that of the empty nest. Since 1990, my life has been my kids—I even homeschooled all the way through high school. I truly thought I would die when this season came upon me. But God held me close, as did a very dear friend. And now that I have transitioned, I’ve found that this, too, is a beautiful season of life.

    My best to you in your new home. Colorado is beautiful! I have relatives who live in the Denver area, and I spent a few days with them last summer. Those mountains are glorious!

    Blessings,
    Patti @ Joy in the Middle

    • Shannon says:

      Hi Patti! Gosh what big moves! It sounds similiar to the moves we’ve made, too. My youngest is 15 so I’ve got a couple more years before the empty nest but I have a feeling I’ll be impacted in the same way. I’m so grateful for Jesus, though!!! Thanks for stopping by today Patti!

  5. Ohhhhh honey, I’m in tears along with you! You and your sweet family have been in my prayers for months. I’m with you, I love change, but then the reality sets in and things get real.

    I love how you’ve broken this down and have friends who made a huge move of faith recently, who need these words NOW. Thank you for allowing the Spirit to work through you in your own time of HARD.

    Love you BIG!

  6. Amen sista! I also believe in rainbows and God’s promises. It sounds like you are right where you are supposed to be. You have a great support group and I am sure you will find an awesome church home and get plugged in. Blessings to ya’ll on you transition. Remember, change is the constant and God’s in control! Blessings sweet sista!

  7. Jill says:

    Thanks Shannon for your heart and wisdom on this. I too have questioned God and if I heard Him correctly just lately-my latest blog post is how am leaning into His Word as I navigate this road. I so resonated with this and am glad God led me to your post today at Grace and Truth! Blessings to you as you navigate your change!

  8. Melanie Redd says:

    This is a great article, Shannon! I can so relate, and I think many others will be able to as well.
    Thank you for using your pain and your story to encourage others!
    I’m blessed by you~
    Melanie

  9. Change…ugh…so difficult and yet so necessary! Each change becomes a bit easier when we witness God’s hand through all of it. Such great encouragement here Shannon!

  10. Valerie says:

    Change can be very hard and sometimes challenging.

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  12. Sarah Koontz says:

    I can’t imagine, really! Uprooting your family at the same time you are sending your baby off to college. God is definitely transforming you from the inside out during this season of transition, girl! Love your perspective, though, and I’m so glad your move brought you closer to where I live. Love you girl, praying for smooth transitions for your family. God is so faithful. And yes, those mountains sing of His glory!

  13. We just dropped our youngest daughter off at college and my oldest is getting married in 3 weeks and I have 2 baby grandsons! That is a lot of change in the past year.

    We are in the “in-between”. That place of transition or movement into a new chapter or season of life. It’s exciting and unfamiliar. I am trying to stay in my day, be present in the moment and wait on God’s guidance.

    Fall is my favorite time of year. We are transitioning into Fall in South Dakota right now and I absolutely love it. So I’m embracing the literal new season and the new “in-between” place I am right now.

    • Shannon says:

      Laura- the exciting AND the unfamiliar I SO identify with! It’s just sort of bitter sweet, isn’t it? I trust and have faith but sometimes its hard. I’m thankful for his grace though!

  14. Aimee Imbeau says:

    It is wonderful to have people in our lives who speak LIFE. They are few and far between. Really. I loved your post. Raw goodness. Thanks for sharing on Grace and Truth.

    • Shannon says:

      Yes Amy! Those who speak life are everything sometimes! Especially during the hard times. I’m convinced God sends them!. Thanks for stopping by today!

  15. I love how you talk about how God sends encouragement our way. It’s a great reminder to keep our eyes open and LOOK for the encouragement. If our head is down and we’re wallowing in our problems, we won’t be able to be encouraged. Great post, Shannon! Hugs and prayers to you as you continue to navigate this transition. <3

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