I don’t shield my kids, and let me show you why. Not too long ago, Fuller House, starring Candace Cameron Bure aired on Netflix. Since then, I’ve seen dozens of articles about how disappointed people are with the show. And while I must admit that I was a tad surprised in episode 2 when DJ, Stephanie and Kimmie went to a club, had tequila shots and “dirty danced”, I did not get offended and I’m not disappointed. I’m not disappointed that this show doesn’t point toward good family values because..honestly.. my kids learn their family values from their own family not from a TV show.
I’m not saying I condone it because I don’t. Even so, I won’t shield my kids from watching it. If anything, I will use it as a teaching strategy and a way to have an honest conversation with them. Have honest conversations with your kids. #parenting Click To Tweet
Stephanie grew up to be wild. And she likes to show her chest…like, almost all of her chest. <insert wide-eyed emoji> She likes to dance; dirty dance, with guys she barely knows. Apparently on occasion Stephanie, Kimmy and DJ go to clubs and they drink alcohol.
Newsflash: Sometimes kids from moral and dare I say even christian families become “wild” when they grow up and may not mold to the way they were raised. It happens.
It’s called life.
Do I condone her behavior? Of course not.
Why I don’t shield my kids:
“We will not hide these truths from our children;
we will tell the next generation
about the glorious deeds of the Lord,
about his power and his mighty wonders” Psalm 78:4
Here’s the thing- my girls are going to come into contact with others that don’t believe the same way we believe. They will meet people who do things that we do not do. My responsibility is to point that out to them so that they have a solid foundation about what is right and what is wrong. I can not remove wrong from the world, I can only expose it in hopes that they will make the right decisions, and that their decision be guided by the Holy Spirit.
In Mark 2, Jesus calls upon a tax collector to follow him. His name was Matthew and he left everything just to follow Jesus. That evening Jesus went to eat dinner with him. Scripture tells us that Matthew also invited his friends who were fellow tax collectors and sinners. Jesus had no problem with it. The Pharisee’s saw this and asked some of His fellow disciples, “Why does he eat with tax collectors and sinners?” Jesus replied, “It is the sick people who need a doctor, not the healthy.”It is the sick people who need a doctor, not the healthy. Mark 2. #whyIdontsheildmykids Click To Tweet
The Pharisees felt like they needed to “separate” themselves from those who were morally or ritually unclean. To which Jesus basically said, “What good is a doctor if he doesn’t go around sick people? Of course he has to go around them, otherwise how can he help them? Jesus hung out with sinners. He ate dinner with them. I love this passage of scripture because in it, Jesus teaches us how to interact with others who do not believe what we believe. It also allows me to reinforce His teachings and guide my girls about “how to have dinner with sinners.”
I want them to shine in this dark world. That’s what they’re called to do. It’s what we’re all called to do. We’re all called to shine so that others can see Jesus. If I’m shielding them from too much then they can’t shine, and this makes is very difficult for others to see Jesus through them. You are the light that shines for the world to see. Matt 5:14 #whyIdontshieldmykids Click To Tweet
We live in a very real and harsh world. My girls are not always going to be right by my side. They will learn things at school that I would prefer them not learn. I can’t stop that whether they go to public or private school. Sadly, they will also learn things at church…and some of those things may be rougher than what they would learn at school! My goal, though, is that they learn those things from me and my Godly point of view first. I want to teach them how to “eat dinner with sinners,” not keep them in a bubble. I want to have teachable moments with them so that I can point them to Jesus.
I realized a long time ago that I was different from a lot of other christian parents. I would hear other moms talk about the things that they don’t allow their kids to do and shows that they don’t allow them to watch. I rarely voiced my opinion because I had such different views. Sometimes I questioned myself and wondered why I didn’t have the same convictions. I’ve always used the bible as my guide to mothering. I love having honest conversations with my girls. And it started when they were very young. Was that right? Was that wrong? What do you think? What does the bible say? These are just some of the questions I would and still ask them.
Nothing discussed in our house is ever taboo. They can ask me anything, and they know that I will give them a straight, honest answer. Your kids should be able to ask you anything. #parenting Click To Tweet
I want them to be able to make the right choices. Knowledge is taught and is a blessing. I want my girls to know. To know about the world they live in, and to learn them from me and their Dad as we are guided by the Holy Spirit. As beautiful young ladies, and then on to beautiful, classy, God-fearing women; I want them to know how to cope in a sinful world. Cope with a heart that loves Jesus and people, no matter where those people come from. I want them to be independent thinkers.
Everyone has a way that they parent. I haven’t won any parenting awards, and I certainly have never been nominated as the “mother of the year.” But my hope is that I be a living testimony to my girls and that they see Jesus within me and that they know. What about you? How do you point your children to Jesus?
Thank you for joining me today!
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