A generation of fighters! + {Giveaway}

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When we lived in Texas we had a pool. Just about everyone in Texas has a pool, because the summers there are so hot. One day, I was sitting in our faded lawn chair looking up at the bright, blue sky. The humidity seemed to be at an all-time high and I felt like I was suffocating. Suffocating not only from the heat, but I felt I couldn’t breathe from all the darkness that surrounded me because of bad choices I made. I wanted my life to be over. I wanted all the pain to just end, to stop. If I were gone, everyone would be happier. My girls would never have to know about my mistakes and my husband could move on and find another woman that would surely never hurt him the way I had.

Looking back I see those were very selfish thoughts, but at the time I was in a dark hole. I couldn’t see a way out.

I wanted to give up. It seemed the easy way out.

We have a stalker.

I was weak, an easy target for the enemy. We’re living in a time like no other. I see so many standing strong in their faith and rising up in this dark and callous world. It ignites a passion within me to join in and not sit on the sidelines. Only problem is, there is someone out there who hates you and who hates me.

Stay alert! Watch out for your great enemy, the devil. He prowls around like a roaring lion, looking for someone to devour. 1 Peter 5:8

You see that? He’s creeping and stalking us. He’s waiting for just the right moment to pounce.

This is why we have to be alert. We have to flip the switch on Satan. We have to get up, for when we are down we can’t be alert, don’t you see?

A generation of fighters.

I love what Lisa Bevere says in her book, Lioness Arising:

Women:  it’s time to…
AWAKEN…
God did not save you to tame you.
AWAKEN…
to a life of fierce passion.
AWAKEN…
To dangerous prayer, stunning power, and teamed purpose.
AWAKEN…
Your response could very well change your world.”

God did not save you to tame you!

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I read Lisa’s book several years ago and it resonated with my soul so much and God began igniting a passion within me to encourage and inspire other women.

We have two choices. We can either lay down and give up or we can get up and say NO to Satan and his evil tactics! Because he’s real and he’s out to destroy us!

You can’t have me!
You can’t have my family!
You can’t have my joy!
You can’t have my peace!
You can’t have______!

During that dark time in my life, I had to learn to rely on God. I had to fight to know Him. I had to fight to save my marriage and my family. I distinctly remember wanting to just give up. I would lay in bed and drown myself in sorrow. I’m so thankful for my mom.

One day she said to me, “Shannon you need to get up. You need to get up and take care of your family.”

A flip switched inside of me that day. I realized that I could either lay there and drown myself which would indirectly result in hurting my family, or I could get up.

Get up and fight.

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So that’s what I did. I got up. I partnered with God. I started reading scripture. I started dissecting each word and each promise. I wrote scripture on sticky notes and placed them on my bathroom mirror.

We are called to be strong and courageous.

God is building up a generation of fighters! #fiercelyhis #fierce #sheisfierce #fight

“Have I not commanded you? Be strong and courageous. Do not be afraid. Do not be discouraged, for the Lord your God will go with you wherever you go.” Joshua 1:9

There are several STRONG, fierce women in the Bible whose stories I simply adore. Women who serve as role models to this generation of fighters.

Esther

“All the king’s officials and the people of the royal provinces know that for any man or woman who approaches the king in the inner court without being summoned the king has but one law: that they be put to death unless the king extends the gold scepter to them and spares their lives. But thirty days have passed since I was called to go to the king.” Esther 4:11

She fought for her people. She fought for them so much that she risked her own life. She boldly went before the King without being summoned. She did this knowing that he might kill her yet she did it anyway. She did it because she was a fighter. She was a fighter and it ultimately saved her people from death.

Esther was a fighter.

Abigail

Otherwise, as surely as the Lord, the God of Israel, lives, who has kept me from harming you, if you had not come quickly to meet me, not one male belonging to Nabal would have been left alive by daybreak.” 1 Samuel 25:34

Abigail was the wife of a wicked man named Nabal. David had made plans to fight Nabal and when Abigail heard about it she packed food with her and went to find David and beg that he spare her family’s life. When she found him she immediately bowed down before him in ultimate humility. David was shocked. His anger turned to compassion. There are so many things we can learn from Abigail. She wasn’t proud. She was humble. Yet she was so strong. Her husband was a jerk. She didn’t have to do anything but she did because she loved her family.

What happened? David spared her family’s life.

Abigail was a fighter.

The woman with an issue of blood

And a woman was there who had been subject to bleeding for twelve years, but no one could heal her. She came up behind him and touched the edge of his cloak, and immediately her bleeding stopped. Luke 8:43-44

Can I camp right here just a minute? I love this lady! I don’t know why we don’t know her name because she certainly was a somebody! I can’t imagine what she went through. She suffered with a disease that made her bleed for 12 years. She was anemic and weak. Not to mention, she was ceremonially unclean so because of her illness, everyone she touched would be unclean too, which is why she couldn’t be in public.

Can you imagine? Put yourself in her shoes! How do you feel?

She knew that Jesus was coming so she decided to get up. She got up and went out to where he was. She just wanted to touch him. She touched the hem of His garment. For that one moment in time, God had sent his son to her. And with just one touch she was healed.

This woman was a fighter.

There are so many examples of strong women in the bible, but I just really love these three. Maybe because I can relate to each one of them.

Can’t you relate?

 

So, I have this dream.

The dream includes a generation of women who fight. They are warriors. They don’t back down. They go through hard times but KNOW HOW TO FIGHT. They aren’t afraid to pursue their God-given gifts.

Women who say, “not today Satan!

Women who rise up THROUGH their circumstances.

God is building up a generation of fighters! #fiercelyhis #fierce #sheisfierce #fight

A generation of fighters.

Something happens when women unite to fight with fierce passion for the things of God.
I want to be there.
I want to be right there.

Do you?

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Salt & Light Link-Up #25

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When the Unexpected Happens

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I was sitting in the cold, bright room looking at my husband, who was laying down on the small, hard bed. The walls were a drab grey and everything appeared crisp and clean. Typical medical facility, I suppose. His shirt was un-buttoned and EKG wires were monitoring his heart. The doctors and nurses seemed rushed. I knew the looks on their faces. I knew the hushed tones. Several years before I’d worked in an ER setting long enough to know what this meant. The taste of blood filled my mouth and I realized I’d been chewing on my lip just a bit too hard.

When the Unexpected Happens #unexpected #life #stressedout #fear

We were driving home from Sunday lunch just 45 minutes before. We spent the morning at church, and now it was time for a nap. Sunday afternoon naps. Aren’t they the best? The afternoon was going to be perfect.

But on the way home, John started having chest pains on his left side. This has happened before, but this time it was different. The pain was crushing him and he was short of breath.

Now we were in at the hospital, and I was waiting for the worst.

John has an extensive cardiac history in his family. His two best friends died while they were in their 30’s.

Do you see how easy it was for me to fear the worst?

And although I truly did fear the worst, the peace I felt in that moment was so much that it seemed illogical.

When the unexpected happens in life, it seems easy for fear to rear it’s ugly head, but I’ve learned that we can not allow ourselves to operate in that fear, otherwise it will devour us.

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John didn’t have a heart attack, thank God. I do believe He provided a miracle that day.

Today’s feature is Laura Thomas, and I may or may not have picked her because of her accent as she is from Wales. KIDDING. Kidding, you guys. But, you do know how obsessed I am with accents, so it definitely was a perk! 😉

Seriously, I picked Laura as our feature because I totally get her post. Although all of us would probably love for life to be perfect and in order, it just isn’t. Unexpected things happen.

Life happens.

Be sure and check out Laura’s post before linking up!

Oh, and guess what?? We’ve got #fiercelyHis merchandise launching soon! And y’all, they are CUTE. I posted a sneak peek on Facebook, if you missed it click here!

Salt & Light Link-Up

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Hey there! So glad you’re here for this week’s link-up. You can read today’s feature over at Married by His Grace. Enjoy reading!

How to Fight for Your Broken Marriage

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There’s a question that I get asked often, and I’ve been asked so many times over the last couple of years, that my answers lately have seemed canned and monotonous.  This week it’s as if God sucker-punched me when I received an email from a reader. I get many emails a week, and this one was different, yet just like the many I’ve recieved. The writer of the email had a desperate tone. She was hopeless and in despair over her marriage. I could relate. I remembered. The writer was me, but it wasn’t me at all. The question that she asked is this:

What steps did you take to repair your broken marriage?

It’s a loaded question and one that has a plethora of answers. The honest answer is this: there is no magic formula to repairing a broken marriage. I wish there was. I wish we could just snap our fingers and poof, things would be better.

Repairing and restoring a broken marriage is hard, that’s why we need God. Without Him, it’s almost impossible. Actually, I want to take the “almost” out. It’s impossible to restore a broken marriage without Him.

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Fix your broken marriage. Is your marriage broken? Is so broken that you think it's beyond repair? Here are 10 important steps that you can take to fix your broken marriage.Hear me.

You can repair your marriage without Him. But a restored marriage? It’s impossible to have a restored marriage without God.

You need Him, my friend. Oh, how we need Him.

As I was talking to my husband this weekend, I thought I’d see what response he’d give. So I asked him:

How would you encourage others to fight for their broken marriage? When you were at your most desperate moment, how did you do it? How did you fight for us?

He laid back in the creamy white chair while his brown eyes went up to the ceiling and he focused his thoughts. He looked over at me with a passion and eagerness and said this:

Focus on the person you’re fighting FOR, not the person your fighting WITH.

Well, there ya go. That.will.preach. WOW. As I say quite often, HOLLA! That’s powerful, friends.

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You get what he’s saying, right? Let me explain from my perspective.

After my husband found out about my affair it was important that he focus on the person he married, not the person who I had become because of the affair. Sin had crept its way into my heart and turned me into someone I wasn’t. I’m so thankful for the wisdom of my husband and that he could see that. It was such an emotional time for us, but it was important that he take emotion out of it and see the truth of who the person was that he married.

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As we continued our conversation, we listed 9 other ways to fight for your broken marriage.

  • Choose your words wisely because you can’t take them back. You can apologize, but they’ll always be there. I know this is hard. When others hurt us, we want to hurl emotion-filled words their way. It feels good, right. But the thing is, it’s not.

Proverbs 10:19 – Too much talk leads to sin. Be sensible and keep your mouth shut. 

So, shut yo mouth, my friend. Shut it. Save those words for when you’re alone in your car, and then cuss and curse the devil…because that’s who your fighting against. We fight not against flesh and blood but the dark forces around us. This scripture isn’t only for that annoying co-worker that is trying to get your job, or that one friend who tries to one-up you at every turn. It’s as much or more for your spouse.

For we are not fighting against flesh-and-blood enemies, but against evil rulers and authorities of the unseen world, against mighty powers in this dark world, and against evil spirits in the heavenly places” Ephesians 6:12.

Girl- get those gloves out and punch that devil in the FACE.

 

  • Limit the people around you to those that support your decision to work on your marriage. This may sound surprising, but you don’t need people in your life that will take your side; you need unbiased support and those who can look at the bigger picture. Lordy, my husband had the reason of all reasons to shun and divorce me. His friends wouldn’t have blamed him. In fact, I’m sure some of them wanted to tell him to do that exact thing. Be careful around those types of friends and family who don’t use wisdom in their words to you.

 

  • By all means, seek professional, Christian counseling. This was HUGE for our restoration. If you don’t know any counselors in your area, call a church in your area and ask for referrals. You can do this anonymously.

…a wise man listens to counsel –Proverbs 12:15

 

  • Honor the vow you took, “for better or worse.” Are you going through “the worse?” What’s your worse? Whatever it is that has caused your marriage to be broken, that’s your worse. I know what you’re thinking. An eye for an eye. Oh friend, this is hard, I know. But the reward you will be given…

 

  • Rely on biblical logic, not emotional, “knee-jerk” reactions.

Proverbs 3:5-7 -Trust in the Lord with all your heart, do not depend on your own understanding. Seek His will in all you do, He will show you the right path to take. Don’t be impressed with your own wisdom. Instead, fear the Lord and turn away from evil.

 

  • Remember the good times you had before this happened, and fight for them. Fight for the good times! As me and John were brainstorming this list, he said “I didn’t want to throw away our good times, I didn’t want to give them up.”

Fight for the good times!

 

  • Pray. I know this seems so typical. But it’s not what you pray, it’s how. It’s not the quantity of your prayers, it’s the quality. I’m not saying that praying often isn’t necessary because it most definitely is. Let me explain. Sometimes when our marriage is so broken we don’t know how to pray. Not only that, if we’re honest, we may not even want to pray. You don’t have to pray big, eloquent prayers. God hears our prayers, period. No matter how small or simple.

When you wake up every morning, say this prayer to God, and mean it. “God, please help me through this day. Give me wisdom.” And at the end of the day, say this, “Thank you God for this day.”

These prayers seem simple and short, yes. The reason I encourage this is these simple prayers above can be life-changing, when you mean them. Remember: quality.

 

  • If your marriage is broken, this is so important: don’t compare your marriage to others’ marriage. Know that every marriage has had or will have struggles. It’s just life. If you see another couple that seems so happy, don’t compare your marriage to theirs. (Who knows what they’ve gone through, or will go through.) When you compare, it puts too great of expectations on your own marriage and it just isn’t healthy. Focus on your own marriage. 

 

  • Know that your broken marriage will more than likely not be repaired overnight. Working at marriage is hard work. It’s not for the weak. But it’s the most rewarding. If you put the hard work into restoring your broken marriage, you will, in turn, be rewarded with a happy, authentic, lovely marriage. Take one day at a time.

One of my favorite resources for restoring broken marriages is Marriage Today by Jimmy Evans. We love Jimmy Evans because he’s practical, in your face, and he speaks truth. Those three things are super important!

I also love Fierce Marriage with Ryan and Selena Frederick. Their website that is a wealth of information plus they have two books that have been published.

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What are some other ways to restore a broken marriage? Be sure and let me know you’re thoughts in the comments below. Also, would you share this article with a friend! It’s easy, just click on the share links at the bottom of this post. Have a great week, friend!

 

 

 

 

 

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Encouraging Others

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Happy Thursday!

Today’s feature is Misty Phillip of By His Grace. I love how Misty inspires others by encouraging them that they were made for more. Be sure and check Misty’s post out before reading or linking up!

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4 Things to Remember When You’ve Made Mistakes in Marriage

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Oh, how I get you. If you work from home, you’re probably still in your PJ’s and your hair is up in a messy bun because you’re on day 5 of no shower. If you work outside the home, the fake smile that is plastered on your face can’t stay much longer and soon people are going to start wondering what’s up.

There’s an unwelcome tension that seems to linger between you and your husband and you don’t know how to fix it. You’re certain that this time, he’ll call it quits and honestly although it’s heartbreaking, you hope he does because you can’t fathom another week of feeling so worthless.

You’re tired, you feel hopeless and your self-esteem is at an all-time low. You’ve given up trying to be the good wife, because the fact is, you’re not good.

John and I have been married for over 26 years. We’ve had happy times and we’ve had tumultuous times. There have been times when I didn’t know if we’d make it to the next day. Heck, there have been times when I didn’t know if I would make it to the next day. Being hit by a car in a freak accident seemed my only way out and honestly my only hope because I felt so worthless. Everyone would be better off without me anyway.

Yep, I had a case of the “me’s.”

You know what I’m talking about. I was so wrapped up in what I had done that I had made it all about me, when the reality is, after I repented God forgave me and it stopped being about me.

Satan loves the mistakes women make and uses them as a launching pad to bring down the family.

But enough about him. This is what I want you to know:

First of all, you’re not defined by your mistakes, you’re defined by His grace.

Did you catch that? 

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You’re defined by His grace.

Jesus came to save you. Not only that, he died a horrific death on the cross for you. You get that, right?

So, let’s get some things out-of-the-way and kick the elephant (I hate elephants) that’s in the room square in the teeth.

I know what you’re thinking, and you’re right. You shouldn’t have been so stupid. And yes, you should’ve made better choices. What were you thinking?

I mean those are the things you’re asking yourself, right? Because they’re all valid questions. I asked myself those same questions more than a dozen times.

I want you to imagine this: imagine God the father is gathering your face in His massive palms, and He’s looking intently into your beautiful eyes as he says this to you:

“I’ll restore the relationship we had when you were young, only this time it will be better. It will last forever, and nothing will lure you away from me again. You’ll remember your past life and face the shame of it, but when I shower you with the good life you had as before it will make your shame fade from your memory. Don’t try to fix it. I’ll fix it for you. I’ll make everything right after all you’ve done, and it will leave you speechless.” Ezekiel 16:60-63 (modified from MSG)

In this passage, He’s talking to the people of Judah, who turned from God and acted horribly. But, since we serve a God of grace, He was ready to bless them if they turned from their evil ways. And not only that, He’s gonna fix it for them. WOW.

There is so much hope found in those verses. He’ll restore you, it will be forever, the shame will be wiped away, God will make everything right, and you’ll be speechless.

What hope!

So, no, you’re not good. None of us are good. Not on our own at least.

We can’t fix it on our own. For far too long, you’ve tried to fix it on your own, because that’s what you do, right? When your daughter has a dirty diaper, you fix it. When she’s hungry, you fix it. When every member of the family is coming down with the cold, you fix it. When you feel you’ve made too many mistakes in marriage, or you feel your mistake is too big, YOU try to fix it.

And isn’t that the problem?

When are you going to stop trying to do things on your own? Can’t you see that you have a Father who is longing…literally, longing for you to turn to Him?

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Here are 4 things to remember when you’ve made mistakes in marriage:

  • Your identity is in Jesus Christ.

Your identity isn’t found in how you wife or how you mother, how you friend or how you volunteer. Your identity is found in Him. Because at the end of the day, it’s not about you, and it’s all about Him.

Let’s talk about Paul for a moment. The man was the sinner of all sinners. He verbally abused people, harassed and oppressed them, and was a violent aggressor. But God wanted Him. Just like He wants you. Jesus Christ thought to himself, yep, he’s the one I’m going to use to bring thousands to me. He didn’t decide to use him after his conversion but BEFORE. He appeared to Paul when he was at his worst and changed his life.

After a while, when Paul got thrown in prison for the cause of Christ he wrote this:

“I focus on this one thing: Forgetting the past and looking forward to what lies ahead,  I press on to reach the end of the race and receive the heavenly prize for which God, through Christ Jesus, is calling us.” Philippians 3:13-14

I know it’s hard. Moving past our mistakes is grueling. God is in pursuit of you, my friend. Passionate pursuit. No matter what you’ve done. No matter how big or how small you feel it is, it’s neither in His eyes. Repent, ask for forgiveness and move on; forgetting the past and looking forward to what lies ahead.

  • Accept grace.

I wrote not too long ago about accepting God’s grace. You’ve gotta do it. When you live in your mistakes, it puts a wall between you and God. It’s like Grace is right there, waiting for acceptance so that it can give you freedom.

  • Accept forgiveness.

If your husband has not forgiven you, then that’s a huge barrier to moving past your mistakes and marital counseling is a must. But for the sake of this post, I’m assuming that he has and you’ve got to accept his forgiveness. You’ve also got to accept Gods forgiveness. I know it’s heavy. The weight of the mistake is almost unbearable, but since when are you the judge? Accept forgiveness from the one who went through miserable pain FOR YOU!

  • Be real.

We have to acknowledge our mistake. We have to be real. We have to literally offer our heart to God and show Him. It’s the act. He sees it before we even show Him but it’s the act of showing Him. If we do this it changes us.

  • Soak in the truth.

Soak in the truth of God’s word. Like, marinate in His word.

Girl, you are NEW. The old is gone and you are NEW because of Jesus! “Therefore, if anyone is in Christ, he is a new creation; the old has gone, the new has come!” 2 Corinthians 5:17  

Christ has set you free, so walk in freedom! “So if the Son sets you free, you will be free indeed.” John 8:36 

You are no longer under the weight of your sin, because of Grace! “For sin shall not be your master, because you are not under the law, but under grace.” Romans 6:14

As I tell my girls: Chin up, buttercup. There’s more to this life than your mistake. So much more!

 

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Difficult Relationships & Salt and Light

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Hi, Friends!

Today is going to be short and sweet but I’m so excited to feature Gretchen Flemming for today’s #SaltandLightLinkUp. Gretchen shares about difficult relationships, something we all can relate to at some point or another. Be sure and check out her article before linking up.

Grace: The One Thing That Never Changes

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Change.

Bleh.

I mean, who likes change? Whether you’re fine with it or not, change sometimes just sucks, let’s be honest.

But I love this truth from today’s feature, Sarah.

Grace never changes. It's the one thing that never changes in our lives. #grace #changeWhen the season’s of life change, God’s grace remains. When the winds of change blow, God’s grace remains. When we are on the ground, fearful of the future and weary from the past, God’s grace whispers, “Get up and fight.”

She continues, “The only way to thrive in seasons of change is to carry God’s grace with us.

The key here is grace. It never changes. What would we do without His grace?
I’ve written before about the change our family went through last year. We’ve been in Colorado for over a year now, and although there have been tough seasons, I can see God’s grace through it all. Even though some things haven’t turned out the way we would like, we still see God’s hand and we hold on to His promises.
And just like Sarah says, the one thing that never changes is His grace.
Averee was plucked out of everything she knew, yet God’s grace has been unending. Although life for her is very different now, she’s grown so much here and it’s only because of Grace.
Grace. You know, it’s really the sum of all equations.
The end-all of everything.
After everything we’ve gone through in life; every single bit of it, grace is the only constant.
I’m so grateful for his Grace, aren’t you?

Stop Saying “I Can’t Forgive Myself”

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“How do I forgive myself?”

What I did was too bad. My sin was just too big and I can’t forgive myself.”

Oh, girl. I get you, I really do. I’ve said that exact phrase so many times I’ve lost count. It wasn’t until a couple years ago that my eyes were opened and I finally understood.

The bottom line is this: I can’t find any where in the bible that tells me I have to forgive myself. More over, it doesn’t even make sense. In order to forgive there has to be an offender and a victim. By saying “I can’t forgive myself,” you’re basically calling yourself an offender and a victim. Isn’t that ironic?

So, why do you feel like you can’t forgive yourself?

1.) You feel your sin is too great. (Where sin increased, grace was greater. Romans 5:20)

2.) You can’t let go of what you’ve done. (Forget the past, He is doing a new thing!
Isaiah 43:18-19)

3.) You feel like you are’t good enough. (Oh friend, you were bought with a price!
1 Corinthians 6:20)

4.) You allow shame to protect you. (Because of Jesus, shame has no power over you!
Hebrews 12:2)

But can we talk about the real issue?

The issue of Grace.

I recently asked this question on the Fiercely His facebook page: 

What is your definition of grace?

Although there were many responses, there was one over-arching theme. Grace is getting something that you do not deserve.

I’ve been studying Grace a lot lately. I’ve been listening to as many podcasts as possible, reading as many books as I can, and searching the word grace online and it’s synonyms every time I get a chance.

(And speaking of podcasts, I was delighted to be a guest on the Happy Playces podcast where I shared my story. If you missed it you can click here!)

Here’s what I’ve found regarding grace.

Grace is a gift. A gift that’s freely earned and freely given.

Have you ever received a gift from someone but didn’t want to open it up? No? Neither have I, because the reality is, we all love receiving gifts. It makes us feel loved and considered.

And isn’t that just like grace?

His grace is all we need and it’s more than sufficient.

How Do I Forgive Myself?

When you feel you can’t forgive yourself.

When we sin, think we aren’t worthy of grace. We want to “earn our way,” so-to-speak. But here’s the thing:

we can’t control grace.
We can’t put grace it in a box.
We can’t navigate grace.
And most of all, we can’t outrun grace. 

So, if you’re struggling to forgive yourself, perhaps what you’re really doing is struggling to accept grace. And when you can’t accept grace, you’re basically saying that the cross, and how Christ died for you isn’t enough and that it means nothing. And my friend, I just don’t believe you really feel that way. So, what’s left then? Nothing, except to accept His grace!

Your sin is not greater than God’s grace.

So stop saying, “I can’t forgive myself.” Because no, you can’t. It’s not even possible. But you can accept His grace. You can lift your head, rise up, and accept His grace. Girl, my hands are holding your face, I’m looking square in your eyes, and I’m telling you- ACCEPT HIS GRACE.

Here are things you can do to accept grace:

  • Love God authentically for who He is, not for what he has or hasn’t done.
  • Join a bible study group. This has encouraged me dramatically over the years.
  • Listen to worship music while you’re cleaning, in your car, exercising, etc.
  • Strategically set aside time to read the bible and do a devotion. I do mine in the morning when my house is quiet.
  • Cry out to Him and tell Him thank you!
  • Realize that Jesus IS grace, always has been and always will be.

Grace is greater than your mistake, it’s greater than your circumstance, it’s greater than your hurt, and it’s greater than your weakness.

You don’t have to look for grace because it’s already found you.

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When we come to the end of ourselves and fully rely on Christ, we gain life. We gain life because we’ve lost it. Grace becomes real, and the gospel message starts to make sense.

Not one of us deserves His grace. And as much as I try to argue that away, nothing can take away from the fact that He bore a horrendous death because of me and because of you. The scandal of our sin was replaced by the scandal of the cross. He meets us at the bottom, right where we’re at and pulls us out of the ditch.

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Accept His grace, friend. It’s his gift to you, and I imagine it has a beautiful bow on it with your name beautifully hand-written on the tag.

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Before I go, have you heard about my FREE Fight for Your Calling 5-day email challenge? You have a calling, friend! Find out more here.

Are you, or have you ever had a hard time forgiving yourself? Could it be that you haven’t accepted HIs grace? Leave your thoughts in the comments!

 

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