#SorryNotSorry|How to actually be YOU without apology


Do you ever feel like you have to apologize for being you? Have you ever walked away from a conversation or a situation and questioned yourself? Why did I do that? Why did I say that? Why am I like that? or Why didn’t I say this? Ever wish God made you differently? Ever wondered how to actually be you and not have to apologize for it?

What about this: do you ever just wish you were someone else? If so, then grab some coffee and lean in!

be you without apology


How to actually be YOU without apology.

I have a secret dream.

I long for the day when we as Jesus-girls can all be who He has called us to be, collectively. For every one of us to WoMAN UP. We talk about how we want to be the “domain” of our home. SO GET UP AND DOMAIN IT. For the love of Jesus and for the love of your family- GET UP. RISE UP!

Sorry I got off on a tangent there… Seriously,  I am passionate about seeing each one of us RISE UP into WHO Jesus has called us to be. And I long for the day when you can be YOU without apology. Be YOU without apology. Click To Tweet

Because you know it can happen, right?

Can you just stop and do something with me for a minute? Will you picture me sitting across from you at Starbucks? I’m drinking a tall iced caramel macchiato, easy on the caramel. I’m probably cold, and I’ll probably be biting my lip. Most definitely I’ll be picking my cuticles, and if you want, you can tell me to stop. All the while I’m looking square in your eyes with an intensity that can only come from the heart. 

Ok. So women have this crazy ability to compare themselves with one another. Right? I mean…it’s sooo easy. We gripe and whine about “not” being able to do certain things, but when it comes to comparison?? Oh we got that one down don’t we?? Yes we do.

She’s a much better mom than me.

Her hair is so much longer and prettier than mine.

I wish I had her clothing budget.

I wish my husband was like hers.

I wish I had a body like hers! I’m so fat.


Why do we do that?? I’m guilty of it too. Although I’ve come a long way, I still find myself doing this from time to time, because I’m human. Being human is no excuse though. Fix it ladies, and fix it quick. Here’s what I do. When I catch myself doing this I do my best to quickly turn this comparison trap into admiration.

Admiration > Comparison

She’s such a good mom.

I love her hair style.

She is adorable and always looks so put together!

They are so cute together.

Her fitness routine and healthy eating plan inspires me!

See? Wasn’t that easy? Turn comparison into admiration. #comparison #admiration Click To Tweet

You are more than you think are.

You are beautiful.

You are unique.

You are something special.

And I’m not just giving you flattery.

Actually I’m an expert on this topic thank you very much.  An expert is a person with extensive knowledge or ability based on research, experience, or occupation and in a particular area of study.  I’ve been a christian for as long as I can remember. I’ve been through trials and celebrations. I’ve studied the bible extensively. See? I’m an expert on it. 🙂 I may not be an expert at much, but I’m an expert at knowing that YOU ARE MOREIt’s what the bible tells me, AND I BELIEVE EVERY WORD.

So- how do you be YOU without apology?

  • Always turn comparison into admiration.
  • Compliment, compliment and compliment. And make it genuine.
  • Think before you speak. Always use truth and love as a compass; let that be your guide.
  • Have confidence knowing who you are in Christ.
  • Be nice. Be kind.
  • Realize that you really are only human. Sometimes you will do things and say things that are wrong and that you will need to apologize for. Be sure and apologize when necessary, that way you CAN be YOU. Get it?

Last, examine your heart. If your heart is ugly, than being you without apology doesn’t really fit. Right? If your heart is ugly than you are not free to be you. Get your heart right. When you allow God to do His work inside of you than there is a freedom that comes a long with it and you are free to be you.With Jesus, I am free to be me. #free Click To Tweet


What holds you back from being able to just be YOU? Do you feel like you fall in the comparison trap frequently? What ways do you overcome?  Do you have any other tips to share? Share in the comments below!

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  1. I love this post! I’m slowly learning more about being myself and not feeling bad about it. Although it may mean that less people like me, at least I know that the ones who do are liking the real me! We are made the way we are because we have a specific life that God has prepared us for. Thanks for sharing at Women with Intention Wednesday!

    • Shannon says:

      So True Stefani! Honestly I hope that I will constantly learn things about myself until the day I die. And you are so right- we are made the way we are because of God’s specific purpose. I love that! Thanks for stopping by! xoShannon

  2. Wow, Shannon. I really like this. I love the proactive advice to not just stop comparing but turning it on its head and admiring. Encouraging. Lifting others up and …being okay with it. When I find myself comparing, I often think, “Really, Lisa? You couldn’t begin to do the work of the whole kingdom. It takes every gift from the body of Christ.” And that helps me realize my small place in God’s kingdom. Love this! And I see you putting this into practice.

  3. Yes! Thank-you for this post! It’s something that I have been thinking about lately too after reading somewhere that women say, “I’m sorry” so much more than men. It’s made me wonder why I say sorry for just being myself, and why I’ve been taught to do that. Thank-you for your words!

  4. Mary Carver says:

    I love, love, love this!! Thanks so much for sharing with Works for Me Wednesday!

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  6. Sarah Pence says:

    Love this!! Isn’t it funny how the less you focus on self, the more you become the true version of yourself? It’s so counter-intuitive but isn’t that just like Jesus? 🙂

  7. KAtie K says:

    It’s so easy for me to get stuck in the trap of thinking of God’s blessings like a pie. As in, if he blesses someone else with amazing hair, there’s that much less left in the pie for me. I keep reminding myself that God is LIMITLESS! Truly admiring, and not comparing (or thinking that because she has more, I therefore have less) is something I work at everyday. Thanks for the encouragement!

    • Shannon says:

      Honestly Katie- I believe that no matter how confident we as women are, we all struggle with this from time to time- the thing about that though is to STOP it before satan tries to get in. I work at it all the time too! Thank you for stopping by today Katie!! xoxo

  8. Annette says:

    Yes, yes and yes…right down to the humble font the message is delivered in! This is spot on. Enough with thinking we are not enough.
    I do this almost daily, and at 50 have to stop myself from thinking this way. There is no evidence to support it but I think there an attempt to undermine our usefulness in the world. Which it can. Excellent post and your blog is an excellent mission.

    • Shannon says:

      Thank you Annette! I agree— ENOUGH!
      The enemy is defeated and ENOUGH IS ENOUGH!
      Thanks for stopping by! Have a great Easter:-) and thank you for your sweet comments about my blog and encouragement!

  9. Great post! I’m featuring you tomorrow at Women With Intention Wednesdays! Thank you for linking up and look forward to what you will share this week! 🙂

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  11. Rachael Hatley says:

    Love it Shannon!! So good and so true. Thanks for sharing your heart!

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