How Are You?



How are you?

So, how are you?

I was at a women’s gathering around this time last year. It was a tough day. It had been a tough week. I had gone to the restroom and while I was washing my hands a dear friend walked in. “How are you?”

“I’m fine, How are you?”

She didn’t accept my answer. “Shannon, seriously, are you okay?”

“No, no I’m not.” I then began to share with her what had been bothering me. She listened, encouraged and offered advice. I’m so glad I didn’t play it off and choose to avoid the conversation. Our conversation led me to make some decisions that directed me to some very much healing that needed to take place in my heart.

So, I’m being serious when I ask you,

how are you?

Imagine that we’re at that table in Starbucks again. Here’s the thing. I’ve been writing consistently since the beginning of February and even in that short amount of time I feel like I’ve gotten to know my readers fairly well. I mean, as well as can be expected. Many of you have cooresponded with me in some way or another whether it be through comments on my blog, social media, or emails. And I love it. I love it when my readers connect with me.

When you read my title did you think to yourself, “I’m fine?” Because, just like I did,  isn’t that what we usually say when someone asks us how we are?

I’m fine, how are you?

I’m not taking your “I’m fine” answer. Sorry.

How are you?

Stop and think about it and know this truth:

God knows.

He knows every thought. Every contemplation. And He’s right there with you, right at this very moment.

Maybe you just received some bad news from your doctor.

You just found out about a betrayal from your spouse.

You’re at your wits end with your colicky baby.

Your teen is going off the deep end.

Maybe someone you thought was a friend hurt you deeply.

Or maybe it’s much, much worse. Maybe the examples above look like childs play compared to what you’re going through right now.

What ever it may be, know that there is someone who knows how you feel.

Jesus Christ knows EXACTLY how you feel. He’s been there done that.

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He was despised and rejected–a man of sorrows, acquainted with deepest grief. We turned our backs on him and looked the other way. He was despised, and we did not care. Yet it was our weaknesses he carried; it was our sorrows that weighed him down. And we thought his troubles were a punishment from God, a punishment for his own sins! But he was pierced for our rebellion, crushed for our sins. He was beaten so we could be whole. He was whipped so we could be healed. Isaiah 53:3-5

Oh, He knows how we feel alright. He was lied about. He was rejected. His closest friends betrayed him. He was severely beaten and mocked. Nails were driven through his hands and feet. He knows how you feel! And he’s right there, right there with you now.

If there is only one person on this earth that can relate to you right now, it’s Jesus Christ.

Take that truth with you today. Hold it close and don’t let go.

Here’s my prayer for you today:

Lord, I ask that you wrap your arms around my friend today. Give peace. Give comfort. Give healing. I ask that you let her know in some small today that she is not alone and that she is loved. In your name I pray, Amen.

How are you?




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  1. katie says:

    So good and so needed. I had this conversation the other day and had to admit I’m not fine , but I have a God who cares and who sees. Thanks for sharing. A good reminder ro be honest with each other and also to dig deep with our friends.

    • Shannon says:

      Beautiful Katie- you do have a God that cares and sees YOU and loves YOU more than you know! And I love you too! xo

  2. Anne says:

    How am I? I am exhausted. Working 40+ work weeks since the middle of Feb. plus being a wife and a mom. Worrying about my daughter and her anxiety and really wishing that someone could tell me just how far to push or encourage her past her comfort zone. Im in desperate need of a vacation (in three weeks thankfully). And I have so many blog ideas and plans that I just need TIME to sit down and learn how to make them happen and how to implement them. So how am I? On the outside I look calm and together. On the inside, I feel anything but. Thank you for asking….saying it all releases the tension of it. XOXO

    • Shannon says:

      omg Anne you poor thing! I pray you get rest soon! My daughter used to wrestle with anxiety…they really are a lot alike! Hang in there and take it one day at a time. You’re not alone!!

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