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How to Write Your Husband a TRUE love letter

I thank God every day for my husband because I earnestly prayed for a man just like him. Everything I do, I strive to give thanks to God for all that is within my marriage (during the good and the bad).

As I think about him, I can’t help but think about writing love letters. A lengthy letter thanking him for how he has loved me, blessed me, and taken care of me would be easy to write. 

So, instead of that hopeless romantic letter, I like to write a different kind of letter; a letter to him that is about him. One that encourages him and tells him who he is in God.

As I allow my hands to be led by the Holy Spirit, I hope to give truth, the Word of God, and prayers for his righteousness and grace. I hope to write how God sees him because how God sees him is how I should strive to see him each and every day.

How to write your husband a TRUE love letterI want it to build him up enough to recognize his gifts in ministry.

When my hand writes; “you are a man of integrity”, I pray my husband’s head is lifted up with humbleness.

When he reads “I love when you raise your hands to the Lord,” I hope he feels a victorious strength within him.

God gives us the insight that we need for our marriage today. He has given us loved ones to pray and encourage us and to speak life into our marriage. God has repeatedly shown Himself to us and builds us up in our love for one another.

Knowing all the investment that has been put in us for a Christ-like marriage, it is our responsibility to continue speaking life by reminding each other who we are in Christ and what love truly is in a Christian-based marriage.

Just as Paul wrote to the Corinthians; what they say in a letter when they are absent, they must do when they are present.

Let such a person consider this, that what we are in word by letters when absent, such persons we are also in deed when present. 2 Corinthians 10:11

A true love letter must have the main component; true love. And we wouldn’t even know what true love is without God.

With God, we have peace, communication, and we have the determination to do God’s will, which is a powerful tool for a marriage.

Give Thanks to the Lord for He is good and His love endures forever! 1 Chronicles 16:34

Write your husband a true love letter.

Write your husband a love letter of how you think God sees him. Remind him of words that have been spoken over your marriage that once encouraged you both. Write an encouraging prayer to your him about a specific area in his life. Write about a specific trait/action that you love about him as he serves the Lord.

This is an example of one of the letters I wrote my husband one time:

“I love that when we walk into church, the first thing you do is grab two tissues and stick them in your pocket. I love that you prepare yourself just in case you might cry during service. I admire this strength in you that shows how much you look forward to seeking God.”


Carmen Brown is the creator of Married by His Grace blog. She actively writes to women who desire to build their home with the word of God. Her passions involve staying connected with her family, drinking an immense amount of coffee daily, and developing content that will help and encourage new Christian Bloggers. You can connect with Carmen on her blog, Instagram, and Pinterest.

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