Loving Yourself: A Revolution


What if loving yourself had nothing to do with you and everything to do with loving others? Start a revolution of loving yourself. When we love ourselves we can love others better!

My youngest daughter, Averee is an absolute joy. Anyone that knows her is completely shaking their heads in agreement right now. She’s always had this joy about her, and while that’s one of her greatest qualities, its not the greatest.

She loves herself.

And it’s as if she doesn’t even know any better. She loves herself in the most innocent way. It’s one of my most favorite things about her. In the bible Jesus says we should love our neighbor as our self. It’s like he assumes that we already love ourselves.

I do love myself….I think..??? But can we chat about it for a minute?

What if loving yourself had nothing to do with you and everything to do with loving others? Start a revolution of loving yourself. When we love ourselves we can love others better!

Loving yourself

The self-love I’m talking about has nothing to do with drinking lots of water, doing yoga, getting plenty of rest, or getting a manicure every once in a while, etc… although all those things are real nice it’s not where I’m going.

Love your neighbor as yourself. Matthew 22:39
 I’ve heard it, I know you’ve heard it, we’ve all heard it:  we can’t fully love others until we fully love ourselves. I’m sure that’s a topic that could be up for debate…because while I don’t think I fully love myself I can tell you that I love my family with every fiber of my being. I can’t see how I could love them any more than I do but what if I could?

Could I love them better? Could I love other people better? What if self-love really had nothing to do with us, but those that we love and the world around us? Wouldn’t that be ironic? And really cool?

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Loving yourself isn’t focusing on yourself. It has nothing to do with self-absorption or selfishness. Instead of an inward focus, it’s outward.

You guys know my story. If you haven’t heard it, you can click there and take a read. (grab ya a cup of coffee though…it’s long, but you won’t be sorry you read it) I write about how through a traumatic time in my marriage, I learned just how much Jesus Christ loved me. I learned that I was worthy of His love. I also learned that I was worthy of my own love..because let me tell you, there was a point where I hated myself pretty bad. And honestly, there are times that I still fight to love of myself. Moments when thoughts of past failures come creeping in and I must fight to rid them.

I am worthy of my own love. And so are you. 

It doesn’t matter what you’ve done in the past.

God will not forget you, you are engraved on the palm of his hand.
He has a plan, a purpose for you.
He knows exactly how many hairs you have on your head.
He knew you before you were born! 

Isn’t it cool that the same God who made the mountains, oceans and galaxies looked at YOU and thought the world needs one of YOU too?!

What if loving yourself had nothing to do with you and everything to do with loving others? Start a revolution of loving yourself. When we love ourselves we can love others better!

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Loving yourself: A Revolution

Webster defines revolution like this: a sudden, radical or complete change in something.

Love is a choice. A choice is made in the matter of seconds. So, what if we actually just chose to love ourselves?

And what does that even mean? I mean, what does it look like for someone to love themselves. I think you’ll have to figure out what it means for you. This is what it looks like for me:

What if loving yourself had nothing to do with you and everything to do with loving others? Start a revolution of loving yourself. When we love ourselves we can love others better!

Loving myself means that I am content and joyfully grounded always in the love of God and the steady focus on His image. It means that I’m so focused on His love that I naturally love myself and I don’t know any better. It’s just a given. Natural. It means that I have complete acceptance, forgiveness and respect for who God created me to be including all of the beautiful parts as well as all of the hideous parts.

This year, one of my goals is to de-clutter. I want to de-clutter my heart and my soul. I want to listen to His voice better. I want to love others better and love myself better.

Will you join me? ‘Cause right now, I could really use a tribe of fierce girls! I love you…I really, really do.

I absolutely love hearing from you! Please take a minute to say ‘hi’ and share your thoughts below.

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  1. I love your heart! 🙂 Thanks for sharing!!! I am with you…the Lord has really been speaking to my heart about this lately! Love you!

  2. JULIA Vank says:

    Hi Shannon.
    I have read your other Blogs,and they are good. Your personal testimony is of God’s amazing love and grace. But for me, personally, this one i by far the best. It resonates with all of us. Christian or not. I happen to be though.
    I have been single for 6 years from a 22 year marriage. Two boys. My oldest lives on his own. My younger son, is shared by both me and his Dad. So, I have been on this very journey that you have been talking about. I have asked JESUS sometime ago to carry me. HE reminded me recently n a conversation that I would like to share with you. I was feeling alone and discouraged at the time about finances. This seems to be more highlighted when being single.
    HE showed me a video in my mind. We where on a beach. A beautiful summer day. The wind blowing warm air over us. HE picked me up and as HE was carrying me, HE said, “YOU ASKED ME TO CARRY YOU.” SO, IF YOU NOTICE ONLY ONE SET OF FOOTPRINTS, THAT’S BECAUSE I AM CARRYING YOU.” Sometimes I need that from HIM. HE does say in HIS WORD, that “HE will never leave us, not forsake us”. And HEBREWS 13, in the Amplified Bible, HE says, “I will not, I will not, I will not leave you without SUPPORT. HE reminds me of HIS WORD to encourage me and to now that HE hears me. I sense HIS LOVE for me. Thru HIS HEALING POWER touching my soul, I learn to love “MYSELF”.
    Then I am able to love other’s. HE IS SO GOOD AND FAITHFUL.
    Bless you Shannon on your personal journey.


    • Vicki tayLor says:

      This is a great word! I believe many women are challenged with loving themselves. I’ve struggled with it from time to time & lately have had this talk with myself. Thanks for sharing. I think it’s very timely. Best of blessings to you!

      • Shannon says:

        I believe that too, Vicki…I have struggled with it a lot before too, and it stinks! I’m so glad you liked it!!!

    • Shannon says:

      Wow Julia- thank you so much for these words.You have no idea what they mean to me and how I believe Jesus is leading me and this blog! Thank you so much for being vulnerable and sharing a bit of yourself here as well. Footprints is my very favorite…and what a comfort for you! Thank you again Julia!!

  3. Deb Wolf says:

    You’re really challenging me, Shannon. I’ve never been very good at self-love. I can take care of myself, but acceptance, forgiveness, and respect . . . oh, I’m hard on myself. So, I’m taking the challenge. Love who God made me, and with His help love well—even me. Thanks for this. I think it’s something I need. Blessings and hugs!!

  4. I think it’s sad how our culture has distorted the concept of self-love. Praying you are able to learn the lesson God has given you in this mission to love well!

    • Shannon says:

      It’s very sad, Nicki. I think Christians can be guilty of distorting it as well, as if it’s a lack of humility to “love yourself.” I wish that stronghold could be broken because it does not come from Christ. I’m so glad you visited my website!

  5. Dawn says:

    I’m taking the challenge with you, Shannon! I loved this post. I think that loving ourselves and the way God chose to put is together is part of trusting God….that he knew exactly what he was doing when he made us the way he did.
    Those pictures of your daughter as so cute! She looks like she exudes joy.

  6. Ahhhhh … Shannon, you hit a nerve. That self-love is something I struggle with. Not too long ago I had noticed that about “Love your neighbor as you love yourself,” too! It was an aha moment! I tried to put myself aside (completely) and love others. Almost as if loving myself was selfish. It’s taken me this many years to really get it. That loving ourselves is loving God and accepting His love. It’s the precursor to loving others well. Thanks, friend, for challenging me! I’m so glad you are back!


  7. I loved this, Shannon! It shows that when we have a healthy love for ourselves, it isn’ about self-absorption but a healthy respect for who God made us to be which actually frees our self-absorbed tendencies and insecurities so that we can love others better. Powerful! Very powerful! Thank you for sharing.

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