The Day I Walked Away From My Marriage

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I have the amazing opportunity to be a part of an awesome community called Compel Training. It’s a part of Proverbs 31 ministries, and its purpose is to train writers in writing words that move people. Everything I am as a writer today has so much to do with this outstanding community.

One of the benefits of being a part of Compel is the challenges that are offered. Recently, one of the challenges was to write your story, and I’m pleased and humbled to announce that I won!

I’m so honored to be featured on the Instagram account of Proverbs 31 Ministries today! If you get a chance, go check it out, like and follow them. You won’t be sorry! If you don’t see the feature there, check back later in the day.

The piece I wrote is about the day that I walked away from my marriage.

The Day I Walked Away From My Marriage

We sat at the dusty, worn picnic table while our two daughters, who were six and eight at the
time, swam at the crowded wave pool nearby. It was our annual summer family vacation, and
while we were supposed to be having fun in the sun as a family, no one knew about the
baggage that I had smuggled in because for the last three months I had been fully engaged in
an extramarital affair. Humidity mingled with unwelcome tension was in the air, and I knew what
my husband was about to ask me, in fact, I’d been waiting for him to ask the question for
several weeks.

When You Need to be Renewed

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I rested my balled up fist against my forehead as the Colorado sun peered through the window. The speed limit was only 40 mph but the car in front of me surely was only going 30 mph. When You Need to be Renewed. Renewal, retreat, spiritualApparently, the driver wasn’t aware that I was already a couple minutes late. How rude. Not only was my head pounding from lack of sleep, my lips were hurting, chapped and had a red scaly ring around them. Nice.

Suddenly I broke down in tears. At the time, I had no clue why I just knew that something was off. I felt unsettled but couldn’t put my finger on why. I arrived at the restaurant, gathered my self and my purse and prayed my friend wouldn’t notice my puffy eyes or Bozo the clown lips.

As I got to the restaurant and started talking to my friend, I started crying again. I started saying things like, “I feel like I’ve lost focus and I have apathy towards my writing.” Honestly, I felt like I was having an out of body experience and was thinking: who is this lady talking right now? I didn’t even realize what was wrong with me until I started talking to her.  As I was talking to her it dawned on me. It was a spiritual attack, and I was in desperate need of renewal. What I needed was focused Jesus-time.

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I hope you’ll check out Dawn’s website before reading or linking up.

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The One Thing to do when You Find Yourself Frustrated

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We’ve all been there. We’ve all been frustrated with life at some time or another. I’ve often found myself extremely frustrated and a lot of the time I didn’t even know the reason. We do, do again and then do some more, yet still, there is no satisfaction. And just like Rosanna (today’s feature) says, “doing doesn’t bring us closer to God.”

Instead, it leaves us tired, weary, and just plain worn-out.

As a wife, momma, friend, and whatever other labels we have, it can all get overwhelming, which leaves us plain frustrated.

Today’s feature comes from Rosanna over at Extraordinary Everyday Mom. I love Rosanna’s solution for feeling frustrated. We must examine our hearts. For Rosanna, it was obedience. Was she being obedient to her what God was asking her to do?

What’s your one thing? It can be different for everyone. Think about it!

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Why it’s Important to Take Thoughts Captive in Marriage

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I’m the worst at thinking things that just aren’t true. As much as I know it isn’t right, it’s just something I’m not great at doing. I know I need to take my thoughts captive, and it’s something I have to continually work through.

take thoughts captiveMy husband is fairly easy to please. Actually, he’s super easy to please. He typically will eat anything I put in front of him and he never complains. I’m extremely blessed. We’ve been married for over 25 years. I put a lot of pressure on myself, as do most mothers and wives. So when my house isn’t clean enough to meet my standards, I tend to push those feelings off on my husband and lead myself to believe that he is the one putting pressure on me when in fact it’s me. My thoughts get the best of me. Taking them captive is something I’ve learned how to do, but there are still times when I fail.

I love today’s feature from Becky, who gives 3 reasons why it’s important to take those thoughts captive.

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A Fierce Love | An interview with Shauna Shanks + Giveaway!

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You guys, I couldn’t wait to click “publish” on this post! I’m so very excited to interview Shauna Shanks. Shauna is such an inspiration to me. She’s a new author and a new friend, and she has really cool hair; so ya know, that’s a no brainer. I stumbled upon her blog several months ago as I was doing research for the book that I’m in the process of writing. When I found her blog and read her story, I immediately knew that you all would love her. I get so many emails weekly from women whose husbands have been unfaithful. And there are tons of books out there on this subject, but none like Shauna’s. Her story is so beautiful. All I can say is WOW. Lean in friends, lean in! And also, I’m going to giveaway one of her books to one lucky person. All you have to do is enter the contest below!

5 Tips for When You’re the New Girl

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As we drove to church, Averee was only an arm’s length away in the backseat, yet it felt like she was miles away. Biting her nails, she stared out the window with wide eyes. I could tell she was nervous. When the church building was in sight, she suddenly planted her face in her hands. “I don’t think I can do this you guys,” she proclaimed through quiet sobs. John and I looked at each other in horror.

5 Tips for When You're the New GirlWe were minutes from arriving, and she would soon after board a bus with over 100 teen-agers that she barely knew and head to California for Spring Break on a ministry trip. I wanted to say, “oh, okay, well then let’s just go home.” Because I knew exactly how she felt. It’s scary being the new girl, especially as a teen-ager. I didn’t want her to go through all of the awkwardness, and I certainly didn’t want her to go through the pain of possible rejection. I wanted to keep her safe. Yet, I knew that wasn’t the best thing for her. She needed to get out of her comfort zone.  So, I quickly said, “Honey, you’re going to be fine. We knew this would be hard, but you’re going to be fine. You can do this, babe.” She shook her head in understanding as she sat straight up and started drying her tears. She knew. She knew that she was going to be fine, but it didn’t mean it would be easy.

We moved to Colorado last year and had only been going to this church for 8 weeks and she was already signed up for a Spring Break youth retreat. She barely knew any one, and she was going in blind. Wow. What a strong girl.

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Being the new girl is hard, no matter our age. This is why I love today’s feature from my dear friend, Tiffany from Simply for One. I love her heart and I know that you will too! Please take a moment to check out this amazing post as Tiffany gives us 5 tips for when you’re the new girl.

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When Life is Falling Apart

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Today I’m absolutely elated to introduce you to my friend Micah. I met Micah not too long ago and I can’t tell you the blessing she’s been to me. She is launching her first book in September, and I’m currently in the process of reading it, and oh, friends, you’re going to want in on this!

There are moments in life that are so devastating there are no words to utter. You see people surrounding you and their lips are moving, but the words cannot be absorbed due to the burden that consumes your mind. You try to move forward with a normal routine, but the world seems to move in slow motion as problems persist, paralyzing your best efforts to press on. Life can hurt deeply. It can scar the tender parts of your heart and make you feel like your life is completely drenched in a sea of problems that cannot be remedied.

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The truth is, there is a remedy. There is someone who anchors us and He holds all Power to overcome every problem we face. But, accessing His Power sometimes seems impossible. Living anchored, grounded, and full of His power feels out of reach. Life is manageable when bills are paid, kids are healthy, marriage is working, church is delightful, and work is enjoyable. When test results reveal serious illness or when a marriage is sitting on the edge of disaster, the stability of life lingers with unknown possibilities, and we quickly forget the anchor that once held us securely. Unexpected bills, heartbreaking conversations, and a life of heavy burdens unload themselves into a world that seems to be shattering right before our eyes. I know this to be true because just like you, I have a list of desperate moments when I needed much more than the world offers.

No one ever plans it this way, but there are people all around us holding shattered pieces of life, wanting What to do when your life is falling apart.desperately to put the pieces together again. We convince ourselves that if our problems would go away, we could get on with our lives and live a powerful life of fulfillment. But problems continue and we can’t seem to get out of the cycle of each current pulling us deeper and deeper into the problems we would rather avoid. Sometimes it feels as if the anchor of our soul has been ripped from the deepest depth of our heart and our ship of life is lost at sea. The waters rise and the trials, troubles, and struggles take center stage filling us with a void of power.

What is a desperate, hurting soul to do when life is filled to the brim with problems? Cling to the power and presence of God. If you know Him, He’s already with you. Right there, in the midst of the unpredictable, He knows every single detail of your life. He is an anchor that does not budge. When everything in life is in disarray, God’s presence is constant, firm, secure.

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“But you shall cling to the Lord your God, just as you have done to this day.” (Joshua 23:8)

What to do when your life is falling apart. Excerpt from Anchored In, by Micah MaddoxOur deepest moments of life are often the ones that draw us into the presence of God more authentically than ever before, or they push us so far away that we cannot see, hear, or remember what it feels like to be close to Him. When it seems like God is far away and the water of life continues to billow overhead, it’s normal to try to achieve nearness to God by doing more for Him or by striving to ignite the inner strength we know we hold. The problem is that power is not something we can muster up when we think we need a fresh dose of the Holy Spirit. It goes much deeper than a crisis prayer at the moment of an emergency. We must know that God’s Power is present every moment of our life.

The Holy Spirit does not blow in like the north wind on a fall day shaking every leaf of our lives to the ground wondering if we will be able to withstand the storm. He indwells every believer at the moment we choose to accept Jesus Christ into our lives, and consistently remains present and accessible no matter what our lives look or feel like. When the wind of life rushes in and we are shaken, we have what it takes within our own bodies to stand firm, be grounded, anchored, and tethered to the greatest power ever known. The biggest problem we face is not a lack of God’s power, it’s realizing where real power comes from. It’s not from you and it’s not from me. It’s from the Holy Spirit of God within each and every believer.

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“If the Spirit of him who raised Jesus from the dead dwells in you, he who raised Christ Jesus from the dead will also give life to your mortal bodies through his Spirit who dwells in you.” (Romans 8:11)

Until we fully and completely accept the fact that real power comes from God and God alone, we will never really experience it. The power that we desperately desire is distinctly divine. Sometimes we get glimpses of it from a book, a sermon, or a song, but if we want to experience it every day, there is only one way.

God’s Power is present in people that pursue it.

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(Excerpt taken from Anchored In: Experience a Power-Full Life in a Problem-Filled World by Micah Maddox)

You can learn more about Micah and her new book Anchored In: Experience a Power-Full Life in a Problem-Filled World at micahmaddox.com.

To pre-order Micah’s book, click here.

Micah Maddox is a women’s conference speaker, Bible teacher, writer, blogger, and author of Anchored In: Experience a Power-Full Life in a Problem-Filled World. She is passionate about helping women find purpose, peace, and calm in our chaotic world. As a pastor’s wife and mother of three, she contributes her time to MOPS and her local church – including serving as a women’s ministry leader.

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What Can Prayer do in Marriage?

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I’ll be honest, I have no clue how married couples survive without God in their lives. Marriage is hard enough with God, so without Him? Geesh. I can’t fathom. For most of my marriage, John and I have relied on God for truth, wisdom, and direction. He has gone before us and He has sustained us. And during the most traumatic time of our marriage, He was there, even when we did not feel Him.

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I got an email not too long ago from someone who had just read my story. She told me how she didn’t believe in God, until after she read my story because there was no way that a couple could survive what we survived if there wasn’t a God. Tears fell from my eyes as I thought to myself, there it is, God, …there it is. This is why I share.

3 Important Benefits of Prayer in MarriageHow is your marriage?

No, really. How is it? If it’s hard right now, please know that you’re not alone. 

God never promised us an easy life, but He did promise us that He’d be there with us every step of the way. If you’re struggling in your marriage please know that He’s right there.

One of the tools we’ve been given to fight through the hard times is prayer. It doesn’t have to be elaborate, friends. God doesn’t care where or how you pray, He just cares that you do. 

Prayer changes things.

It’s an invaluable weapon that we have to fight the darkness. I mean it’s right there you guys, all we have to do is open our mouths and talk to God as if we’re talking to a friend. It’s really that easy. This is why I’m loving today’s feature from Sue @ Mama of Three Boys. There are 3 huge benefits you gain simply by praying for your marriage. Hop on over to Sue’s page before linking up.

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Why Your Friend Needs You Now More than Ever.

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Giving your friend space: 6 Ways Your Friend Needs You Now More Than Ever

I felt the phone vibrate in my purse. It was one short vibrate which meant it was a text.

“I’m praying for you today,” then a purple heart emoji.

A sweet text from my friend. I felt so much gratitude in my heart for her text yet there was nothing really that I wanted to say back to her so I tapped the home button and put the phone back in my purse. I didn’t really want any contact with the outside world. I wanted to be left to myself. I just wanted to “be.”

I was going through a really hard time. The part of my personality that is introverted screams loud when I’m going through hard times. I tend to sort of step back from everyone and slip on the facade.

3 Ways the Enemy Attacks

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3 ways the enemy attacks during hard timesThe enemy is on the prowl, hoping to attack and devour you. He hates you, he hates your family, and he wants nothing more than for you to fail. It seems grim, I know. But it is grim, it’s real, and it’s the truth.

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I do believe now more than ever, that God is building up a generation of women who know how to fight. Women who aren’t afraid to fight and women who know how to fight.

When we’re going through hard times, we can be an easy target. But we have no choice but to overcome so that we can find peace and healing. In order to do that, we have to recognize ways that the enemy attacks. I love today’s feature because she arms us with 3 ways that he attacks. Please hop over to her website before heading over to the link up!

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