Should you tell your story?


It’s been 4 months since I told my story publicly on this blog. Of course Jesus has never left my side, but that doesn’t mean it’s been a breeze.

Should you tell you story? This article gives you some things the think about before you start.

I’ve received a plethora {I really like that word.:-)} of reactions, some good, some not so good and some bad.

I’m so proud of you.
You’re so courageous.
You’re so strong.
You disgust me.
How could you do something so evil?
Now I know why God had me stay away from you. (Yeah…I didn’t understand that one either.)

Before my sweet friends and peeps go into protective mode, you need to know that mainly they’ve been good. I would say 90/10. And believe me, the 90 far outweigh the 10. And Honey, ain’t no body gonna ’cause me to stop what God has called me to do! Besides, I knew it would happen. I was prepared.

Because hurting people hurt people.

Some wonder why I would even disclose something so private. Can I tell you something about myself? I’m not one to talk about my life or tell people things that I’m doing. My friends can attest to the fact that I don’t really talk about myself or what’s going on in my life unless they ask me. Not that I’m superficial; I’m not. But in conversation, I’d much rather be the “listener” and hear about you rather talk about “me.” So, to disclose something so private and so dramatic is just not like me.

So, this among other things help me know that I’m following His leading, not my own.

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Telling your story has nothing to do with you, and everything to do with God.

This article gives you some things to think about before you share your story.

It’s not about you my sweet friend. The story is His.

And it’s not really about the reactions that we receive. Not really. I mean, the reactions…the positive ones that bear the spirit of the Lord are HUGE. Believe me, they make my day. But that’s not really any of my business. Peoples reactions are not my business. They’re not our business. They’re God’s business, so stay out of it, okay? <sarcasm inserted>:-)

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Of course there are some factors that you need to think about before telling your story.

If it’s a sensitive issue or subject, seek council and wisdom from others. I received some great wisdom from fellow bloggers and leaders in the field of writing. I can’t tell you how much it’s helped me. I also received counsel from close friends and family members who I knew had my back. Who cared about me more than they cared about their own agenda…and that is super important. Be picky about who get you get advice and counsel from my friends. This goes with every area of life.

If telling your story will affect your family, talk to them about it first. My story was extremely sensitive. There was no way on earth that I would’ve told my story without talking to my husband first, but also without talking to my daughters. A whole heap of prayer went in to this. I took it very very seriously. I sought God. I planned out how I would talk to my girls. 

Be authentic when you tell your story. Please, for the love of all that’s holy…be real. This world and the people who occupy it just want REAL, authentic stories. They want you to be real. They need you to be real. And if you’re not…they’ll know it, I promise.

Last, I agree that some things should be kept private. But is there someone you can tell? One person? When we shed light on what Satan wants to keep in the dark, Jesus shines brightly. Not only does Jesus shine, the healing you’ll receive is.. well, very healing. Healing for you AND healing for them. But, there’s a difference between airing dirty laundry and telling your story. Think about that.

So, should you tell your story? That’s up to you and God, but hopefully I’ve given you some thoughts to  help guide your decision.


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  1. Julie says:

    Shannon- thank you for telling your story. I want to read about honest and authentic people. Messy people who don’t have it together. I’m encouraged by you because I’m broken and messy too.
    God uses our biggest messes to show His glory.
    Thank you for being vulnerable!
    To God be the glory!

  2. liz says:

    So brave! Just keep following where God leads! Blessings!

  3. Kristi Woods says:

    Oh I LOVE this. And yes, “protective mode” began to roar, so it’s a good thing you put that little ditty in there ~ at just the right time. 😉 God is good, even with our stories and with the hearts of those reading and receiving them. xo

  4. Deb Wolf says:

    Your advice is perfect! I have parts of my story I’ve kept private because some of the details just aren’t mine to share. But Shannon, I truly believe your message has and will bless hurting hearts. And you’re right . . . reactions to your story are God’s business. Blessings to you my friend!!

  5. RebeccaLynn says:

    What immediately came to mind is, what’s God’s opinion about sharing our guilt and shame that He’s turned into forgiveness and restoration? Read the Bible. That’s God’s opinion. He thought it was important to tell us that Moses lacked faith, that David was an adulterer (and worse), that Mary Magdalene was a prostitute, and that Paul was a terrorist and murderer – because in their guilt and shame, we find our own – and the cure for all of it. The Bible is FILLED with stories like yours — and mine — and all of ours. Confession, repentance, acceptance of Christ. Should we tell our story? Should you, beautiful Shannon, have told yours? I think the answer is a very obvious YES, in Jesus’ name!

  6. Hillary says:

    I think you have some great advice here. Being honest (real) is the only thing that will bring people close, teach, inspire and touch their spirit. And I firmly believe that God uses our weakness, our mistakes to reach out to others when we are honest about them,

  7. Gena MCcown says:

    I so agree that it is His story, and we are his vessel. We share that story for His glory and His prompting.

    I would add to your suggestions at the end to only tell YOUR STORY. You may know a story about someone else, ask them first. Another person may be part of your story, ask them first. Otherwise, only share your story.

    • Shannon says:

      Oh yes Gena, of course! I’m not sure if you read all the way to the end, but I did make a point in the latter part to ask others when they will be affected. I know about that first hand. And yes, telling someone else’s story definitely isn’t cool without their permission! Thanks for stopping by today!

  8. Rosa says:

    I am in the process of writing my story right now, actually and your post speaks to me because of that. I have been wrestling with the gut-wrenching decisions that have to be made in order to tell His story. It is hard; it isn’t easy. I’ve wondered what others would say and I guess I won’t know until it comes time to speak up. Thanks for sharing.

    • Shannon says:

      Hi Rosa- I will pray with you about sharing your story. With God on your side and in your heart, you can’t lose. I pray you receive peace as you write!

  9. angie says:

    awesome ideas and I love giving all the Glory back to God. He was the one who provided the opportunities in our life we chose but he gave thanks for sharing
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  10. Carly says:

    These are such helpful tips. And I love how you point out that our stories are really not about us but about God- and God can work through even our messy stories to reveal himself to others.

    • Shannon says:

      Thanks Carly! Our stories, painful or not can be used the shine the light of Christ. As long as it points back to Him he’ll always bless it!

  11. Great wisdom for how to honor others while also honoring ourselves and the redemptive work of God in our lives Shannon. Yes, if we can tell our story to even one, and it brings healing! Isn’t that the ultimate goal:)

    • Shannon says:

      Crystal- exactly. If even just ONE is touched, it’s been worth it. I love how He loves each and every ONE of us!

  12. You go sista ! I think your points are dead on. If God is involved-only glory and grace will be revealed. Keep on writing and have a beautiful week!

  13. Sarah Koontz says:

    Jesus was a storyteller. Not everyone liked what he had to say either, but gosh darn it if he weren’t the most forgiving and loving man who ever walked the planet. In our weakness, He makes us strong. Keep sharing, dear! God is at work.

  14. Shannon, I have to admit that when I first read your story, my knee gut reaction was, “Why is she telling me this???” I got scared. (Maybe because I’m not that brave????)

    But you know what? My second reaction was this: “That woman is brave, and she has a story that needs to be told, so that others can be set free.” I’m so glad you followed God’s leading, and the wisdom here to guide others about what they need to consider before sharing their stories is so helpful.

    • Shannon says:

      I know Betsy- many that read may not be able to get past the failure enough to get to the other side of the beauty of Christ. That makes me sad…but just as He promises, all things work together for His good. And you, not brave? You’re clear across the world doing a work I don’t know that I could do! That’s bravery my dear… You’re just human and I’m so grateful for your honestly. And your heart. And your spirit. And…the list goes on. 🙂 Have a wonderful rest of the week Betsy!

  15. “When we shed light on what Satan wants to keep in the dark, Jesus shines brightly.” – Amen! The enemy does want us hiding in shame. Wondering if we would still really be lovable if the truth were known. And like you said, even if it is just one trusted person who knows the truth, the enemy loses his power to whisper the lies of shame over us!

    Shannon, you KNOW I am one of your biggest cheerleaders! I am so proud of you and honored to call you friend! I’m delighted to watch as you blast the hope of Jesus out into the world and lead women to believe that nothing is too big for Jesus to heal and redeem!!!
    Love you!

    • Shannon says:

      LORI. I’m honestly doing a cheer right now in your name! Not lying! You encourage me daily and I’m so thankful for you:-)

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